Tons of TV shows portray reality in a way that is supposed to relate to the viewers. There are all these shows that have guys in them that attract lots of girls. Most teen soap opera shows, sitcoms, and movies as well.

When I watch these shows and movies, I find myself wanting to be like the guy who gets lots of girls. So, I will look at the main character or whoever the stud is, and whether subconsciously or not make the decision to start acting more like him believing that if I act like the pimp on TV, girls will love me too.

Unfortunately, I don't think it's this easy. All this accomplishes for me is severely over thinking everything I do and robotically forcing myself to act like a fictitious character. It doesn't work.

I guess the only way to get past this is to accept who you are. You really need to get past these archetypes that are set up on pedestals for all guys to look up to. They work only for themselves. Maybe if that character was in real life and acted the exact same, he would still be a stud. That's because it works for that character.

But you aren't that character. What works for your character? This is what you should be asking yourself.

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Very good post. You're exactly right. Trying to be like James Bond or Chuck Bass may not work for you. You have your own personality and things that are good about you. These are not the same as the traits of a fictional character.

Agree with Sharplin but occassionally I love playing fictional characters. It's so fun. I was meeting a girl in college to fuck her in the toilets, and she was a bit scared, so to make it more fun and not scary I told her I was like James Bond, infiltrating college to blow it up whilst still having time to fuck a pretty girl like James Bond does. In the end though it was me who lost my nerve, damn cameras everywhere and if she gets kicked out of college then no uni.

I also like to pretend to be Edward Cullen, and bite girls. HARD.

But yeah like Sharplin said don;t make these characters your real character, but role play is fun!

Cause and effect.

We want to be that guy so that we get the results he gets, but only because being ourself isn't getting the results we want.

Once you get what you want and figure it out in your own way, these guys become mere entertainment. You no longer strive to be something you aren't because you succeed.

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I agree, though Imake a point of exposing myself to as little media as neccessary.

Fact is most of the characters and celebrities are portrayed in an unrealistic way designed to make you feel insecure and un-comfortable by comparison, in order to feed the consumer industry.

I.E. Most tv reality shows, most tv teen soap opera's, most commercials and most portrayals of celebs and "people" are damaging to your self esteem.

The interesting thing is, I do a similar thing, to great success. The difference is that I don't try to *be* the character. I've tried to isolate what it is about characters like James Bond and Christian Troy, and actors like Hugh Grant and Johnny Depp, that makes girls want them.

The fact is they have three things:

1) Good looks (and know how to use them)
2) Fame (and all that comes with it)
3) Professional writers telling them what to say.

Now, as PUAs we should have learned that good grooming is an essential habit, so check one. And we've learned that fame (and associated accoutrements) is not neccessary if you play the game right.

So that leaves #3. #3 Applies to more than just the screen, it's also why there's a massive market for romance novels, and why there's a Facebook group called "Disney Gave Me Unrealistic Expectations About Love."

When I am in a pick-up situation the thing I always have on my mind is: "What would the next line be if this were a romantic comedy?" It's not James Bond, or Barney Stinson, but what they are able to evoke from words on a page.

The idea is to make myself a character in her romance. It's very "Method Acting." Don't imitate. Become.