Hey guys, looking for some intimate tips and advice from guys who don't mind to share it.

What I've discovered over my first few experiences of sex is that I actually have the potential to be quite good, please don't see this as bragging it's merely one aspect of 'Game' I want to be good at (just like every man).

Reasons why:

- I'm very fit and healthy and have good endurance
- I'm strong
- I can last for a good long time, I actually find I have to 'try' and 'finish' after I've been going for a long time.
- I'm not a selfish lover, I actually would rather please my girl and put effort into doing so, because I know I'm going to be satisfied in the end anyway.

Basically, she isn't comfortable (for whatever reason) with me using hands/mouth down below .. don't know why, she doesn't let me. Question 1: How can I find out why this is ? Will she get more comfortable in time ?

I've done lots of reading on how to stimulate the Clit during sex and where the G-Spot is (have no idea how to hit it during intercourse though, you can't get at that angle during Missionary tbh ). She seems to enjoy whatever I do anyway, I did at times ask "What would you like" in response I just got "Anything" so I carried on .

I'm just looking for tips basically on how I can please her more, I would love nothing more than for her to climax. Any tips you guys could give would be great - don't be afraid to be graphic, I don't care .

Many thanks in advance for those who share some tips .

When you wrote you had potential to be great in bed I figured you would write about your enormous dick, but I guess not
A woman's G-spot is on average 4.5 inches in on the front wall, you can reach it in missionary position, it helps if you lift yourself up a bit, so that your arms are straight and you will get a better angle. The most "universal" position to make a woman come is her riding you, reverse or regular riding are both good.
When it comes to you touching her, if she doesn't like it, I just assume that you are too rough, a woman's clit is very sensitive a needs only a very light touch.
As for books, I recommend Lisa Longhofer - the art of female ejaculation it has many great tips in how to please a woman.
And taking your time isn't always a good thing, some women can come a lot really fast, and after that she doesn't want to lay around and just wait for you for 15 minutes, a 3 minute sex is often better than a 30 minute sex if you are well synced together!
Also when it comes to improving your sex life, dont be afraid to talk to your girl about it, talking is very important!
Make it spicy and spontaneous, the bed is not a very hot place to have sex, it is a little plain and regular so try to spice it up.
Many girls also like their men dominant, so don't be too unselfish, again, try to find out what she likes!
Sex is one of those things that you can practice for ages before you become really good, but it is easy to motivate yourself to do it because the practice is really fun

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I've got that too.

Like slywalker said the best position, or one of them, for making a girl come is her riding you, I've found that if you pull her face down to yours, then lift her legs up and go really fast they love it (only tried this on two girls though but they both loved it).

Going doggy style, and alternating running your tongue down their neck and the line of the back, then blowing on it, the hot/cold sensation is really sensitive because the skin is rarely touched here so responds more, one girl said she liked it almost as much as orgasm. Rubbing the clit gently whilst fucking doggy style is good too.

You just need practice, every girl likes different, the more times you fuck her the more you'll work out what she likes!

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Firstly, haha . Secondly, so if you're in regular Missionary but then straighten my arms so I'm more angled, that works ? Doesn't that mean you lose the advantage of laying on the girl though, which I read somewhere is good as the fully body contact and added clit stimulation make it more enjoyable for her ?

I know my girl is open to going on top - she's done it before, so should I get her to go on top but then lean slightly back (Cowgirl position isn't it?) and see if she likes that?
No it's not because I'm too rough because I haven't actually had the chance. As soon as I get close with my hands or mouth, even after building up anticipation (rubbing the thighs; kissing all over her chest and hips) she stops me. Previous experience maybe ?
I do talk to her whilst we're doing it, sometimes a bit dirty if I'm teasing her, sometimes I've said "like that?" if she seems to be enjoying something in particular.

Question: Girls take longer to get in the mood, is the time to talk about sex when you're doing it, so like, as you go, or can you bring it up in normal conversation ? I've refrained from even mentioning it but I don't mind talking as we're doing it.

We've only ever done it in the bed - although with some bits on the floor, she's pulled me onto it twice so I think it's a lil' thing she likes ?
So she's riding you (sat up) but with her face towards you and her legs up (on like, your shoulders?) ?


Not sure how open my girl would be to doing it Doggy, I personally don't like the idea of it but it might grow on me. I quite like the intimacy of sex so like to see her eye-to-eye. Plus she's ridiculously tickalish so your idea might not work on her .

I'm slowly trying to find what she likes, using her reactions to judge. If she moans a little or breathes harder I take that as an indicator of her liking something, when I find something she likes, I go for it on that.

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Things I have in mind to try next time:

- Lifting her legs onto my shoulders when doing Missionary (me kneeling and leaning onto her thighs).
- When doing standard Missionary, wedging a pillow under her back to angle her better.
- Letting her go on top and getting her to lean back.

Mate you are very disadvantaged if this is the case...

Dont look at sex as just 'dick in pussy going back and forth'. but the whole process.
I like to try make a girl come before I even stick my dick in by touching her and eating her out. Ive never come across a girl who doesnt let me touch her there if ive escalated properly and made her feel comfortable, so I dont have advice on how to overcome this barrier. She might be insecure of you looking at it coz she has a untidy vag? im not sure but thats my theory.

But if you can get this aspect of your sex under control then it will become alot better for her, hence you.

Okay to make it simple, this generally works for girls into the sensual sex (my ex was massive on it).

1. Slow build up over an hour or two- spike her BT by getting in close, giving er the odd back rub etc.

2. When it comes to foreplay, tease her to fuck, and spend a good 15 minutes without touching her pussy. Try stroking gently and whispering naughty things in her ear. Seriously: strok her whole body, but dont touch her nipples or pussy. Everywhere else is fine, make the touches light and soft.

3. Start kissing her neck, collar bone, chest. two steps forward, one step back. Make it a journey and feel the energy together.

4. Once you get to kissing the bottom of her tummy, run your finger tips and nails gently up the inside of her thigh.

5. Rubb her gently through her knickers and kiss all the way back up.

6. Pull them to the side and rub her juices all over her lips, and slide a finger in.

7. Try using the 'triangle', which is where your index finger and ring finger meet either side of the clit, and finger her with your middle finger. This stimulates clit & g-spot.

8. Try going deeper till you get to the 'a-spot', which is situated next to the cervix, on the inside lip of the 'frisbee'- google it or sumthing man!.

9. If she really aint having it, then your gunna have to just fuck her.

I like the way you want to put her first, so e-mail me I will send you the most useful e-Book i have ever had on this topic. 10 months orgasmless my ex had, then i read this ebook and she came the next night i was with her xD


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Peace.

Tom
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From a girl's point of view, I think Tom's strategy is very sound. I find that women like to be stroked softly and slowly. I think there's something hypnotic about it and if you do it right her eyes will glaze over. However I've always had a problem with women that won't/don't touch themselves and aren't aware of themselves sexually. I find I can't enjoy myself with somebody like that. There is so much pleasure in giving pleasure and not being able to go down on a girl is ridiculous.

I recommend watching some lesbian porn. I find that women pleasing women is an easier way for men to find out what turns girls on. I'm not talking playboy stuff with fake boobs and all acting for the camera. There's a huge range of semi-pro/amateur stuff that is much more enjoyable viewing and learning from.

It can't be a case of comfort with me because we've been together for a long time and she's comfortable sleeping with me. I still have no idea, nor do I have any idea how to find out why. I just know that I want to give her pleasure the best way possible and find it hard without being able to let me touch her/use my mouth.
Fair point, have downloaded two of his Manuals and am reading through them - some good stuff ! Thanks .
Thanks for the tips mate I find that I'm actually doing a lot of that stuff already, except for the part of using my hands (see above). But I'm definitely interested in this eBook, you have a PM .
Thanks for some of the tips there, and I did lol at the suggestion of just watching Amateur lesbian porn for tips .

Also, what do you guys know about/think of Taoist Thrusting ? 9 Shallow, 1 Deep, 8 Shallow, 2 Deep, etc ... down to 1 Shallow, 9 Deep. Worth trying along with the other three things I'm going to try (in order):
Also thinking of getting her onto the floor and off the bed, think she has a thing for it .

Still not sure how to communicate with her about this whole anti-hands/mouth thing she has. She doesn't mind using her hands and I find it tough because I want to use Foreplay and teasing before I go for the full thing to make her reach Orgasm, because I think I have the potential to do it.

That's very common and the girl could have had sex with many before but still is uncomfortable with it. I once had sex with a lesbian friend of mine -and she is famous among other lesbians for giving the best oral sex, she proved it to me as well, even tho I have a dick! LOL- and she DID not let me go down on her. My ex has had sex with her as well and she did not let either! Her own ex was not allowed either! I found that very weird, and I did my best to make my way down there and she said "she only allows it when she feels comfortable with it, so I did not carry it any further!

It could have many reasons. Some might feel their vagina is gross. Might feel it smells funny or might taste very bad to a point where you admit it and hurt them even more! Once she is more comfortable with you, she will alow it and all you can do is, make her understand that you WANT to do it and it's gonna be awesome and you bet she tastes great! If not, take a bath with her and then right after do it -so she would not feel unclean-.

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Where do these questions come from? Countless books out there on things you can do while in bed. Of course he can't hit the G-spot when you are missionary, the main stimulation for her is coming from your pelvis hitting her clit. Why don't you ASK HER!?!?!? Crazy, I know.