In your experience, What is the best way to tell a girl that you've slept with that you aren't interested in a relationship.

Should you tell her it before you sleep with her again or will this ruin the sexual vibe and be a turn off.

Should you tell her after you sleep with her again or will that hurt her more.

Is it a scumbag move to sleep with her until she brings it up?

I know it ultimately is whatever I want to do, but if you guys have some experience I could learn from it.

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I'd still sleep with her, unless she is sleeping with you because she thinks she's going into a relationship with you, if that's why she's sleeping with you then I would suggest telling her you're not interested in a relationship. If she still wants to fuck, that's good for you, but she probably won't.

-C

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Yea we are just fuck buddies or just done either way I am cool with it. As long as I don't have a girl who is obsessed with me that I have to turn down I am good.

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I prefer to tell this to a girl before we've even slept together for the first time. Tell her you're just coming out of a relationship or you're not capable of being in a relationship right now.

Morally, I feel this is the right thing to do. If she still sleeps with you, you're golden, because she already has low to no expectations and you can continue this for a good while. Also, she may want a relationship later even if she doesn't now just cuz of what sex does to girls, and we all know we want what we can't have.

In your situation Cas, I wouldn't bring it up at all. Why? There's no need, let her keep guessing. Don't show her your hand, if you know what I'm saying. If she brings it up just deflect it, say you haven't decided what you want yet and you're still figuring things out. If she asks more than one or two times, you will eventually need to tell her that you can't be in a relationship with her but that you still enjoy your time together and if she wants to keep seeing you, she has to understand that you don't want what she wants. In a gentle but firm way, you need to make it clear that you will stop seeing her if she really only wants a relationship. This could even be a false takeaway, and leaves the door open for resuming hooking up down the road after some time. Tell her you feel bad and its not fair to her that you're putting her through this - make yourself the bad guy. If shes hooked on you, she'll keep fucking you, even though you've broken her down.

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You can tell her you believe in Polyamory - which means the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.

Polyamory differs from polygamy, which refers to multiple marriage (although the word "polygamy" is often used to refer only to polygyny: one man with several wives.) Traditional polygamy is usually patriarchical and often claims a religious justification. Polyamory, on the other hand, is a more modern outlook grounded in such concepts as gender equality, self-determination, free choice for all involved, mutual trust, equal respect among partners, the intrinsic value of love

At this time this is my believe, I have told this to several girls and they have accepted it.

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Thanks guys.

I learned several approaches from both of you. I actually have already told her I don't want a relationship and she said that she "hadn't put that much thought into us yet." These were golden words to me.

We have been hooking up and continue to do so, she knows up front that I don't want a relationship, although I think she does deep down and sex is making her become more and more attached.

I just feel really bad honestly. But she has really big natural tits.

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