I recently had my first one night stand. I met a girl at the bar I work at, we talked for a few min. I asked her if she wanted to hang out later that night and she said yes.

I really know nothing about this girl; we made a little convo on the drive to her place and made out in the car at the red lights. Got back to her place, made out more and that led to sex. We had sex and then lied there, talked for a little bit and held each other. I massaged her and kissed her a little bit. Eventually we fell asleep holding hand (i initiated the holding hands). We woke up and we layed there for a little bit. I started kissing her arm and hand lightly then moved my way to her mouth, shoulder and neck. Held her closely and massaged her entire body. This then again led to sex. Went to poundtown for a while... then lied down again, and held her closely, massaged her and lightly kissed her, while she did the same to me. During this she said to me that I was such a sweet guy and said I was very affectionate for just meeting her.

I included all of that above because I wanted you all to know what the night was like. Was I not behaving properly for a one night stand? We both discussed how we don’t want a boyfriend/girlfriend. But I feel liked I behaved somewhat like a emotional pussy, holding and kissing her so much. Since we had sex so soon should I have been playing it cold after sex or was I okay? Looking back on it I think I was to emotional, I think I should have been using the push/pull method throughout the night (not the sex, but everything after).

Her saying I am such a sweet guy and saying I am very affectionate for just meeting her stuck with me and I feel it was her telling me something.. ??

Especially the "very affectionate for just meeting" part. It seems like she was implying that it was weird that I was so affectionate for just meeting her. Did I come off as week or emotional needy??

I really enjoyed being affectionate with her but I don’t want her to think I’m a pussy.

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You were fine. Just do what you feel like - don't try to play games, that's what gets you into trouble. I recently picked up a girl from the local uni in my town and pretty much the whole way through I was just pouring my feelings of love to her, whether through text or in bed. We're still fuck buddies, and we still like each other.

By being yourself (which as she said, is a very sweet and affectionate self- WHICH IS GOOD), you are building a positive relationship. You can have sex and leave the girl with negative thoughts, but you left her feeling positive about the whole occasion, which is great.

If you want to make sure you're not perceived as a doormat - then just tell her straight out that you're not a pushover. You don't have to feign some elaborate demeanor. There's nothing wrong with giving love in whatever quantity. The fault usually comes in other parts of peoples' game.