Recently I just started reading a book that I first heard about from one of David Deangelo’s series called 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey.

The book, while not focused upon the subject of women and dating, contains a great insight, and it strongly correlates to the belief systems that we men have on the subject of women.

In the first few pages of the book Covey taks about this thing called a paradigm. He then goes onto explain a paradigm is simply a belief about something, but it goes a little deeper.

He explains it as a paradigm being like a map, but reality, and the way things REALLY are, would be the actual terrain.

A map, in this situation, is only as useful as it is accurate. A map of Detroit, for example, would not be of much use to you maneuvering around Chicago.
So, let’s get back to women and dating and what this actually has to do in relation to attracting women…

THE WAY WE SEE THE PROBLEM (IE ATTRACTING WOMEN) IS THE PROBLEM

If you’ve followed an advice from David D., RSD, or other source then you may realize that the ONLY thing stopping you from walking up to the hottest woman in the club, the sexy girl at the book store, the cute girl at the cash register, and going up to her with complete confidence, sparking interest, building attracting and giving off a spontaneous, dominant vibe is you. There is NOTHING else stopping you. Not your job, not your car, not your looks, not anything to do with your life situation.

This paradigm thing is pretty powerful. For example, let’s say you’re bald. You believe women do not like bald men.

Let’s really break this down.

WHY do you believe that? Really get in there and dig this up. Did someone tell you that? Did you pick that up from watching advertising on TV? Did you hear a woman make a negative comment about how she didn’t like bald men, so you therefore assumed all women don’t like bald men? Was it because you’re bald and women don’t respond well to you therefore it must be because you’re bald?

Is it true, given the choice between two physically IDENTICAL men (Siamese Twins let’s say) , a bald man and a man with hair, all women would choose the man with hair simply without speaking to them to find out their personality?

If suddenly a man that’s totally secure with himself, mature, and knows that he is valuable and worty of attracting women suddenly lost his hair, would he instantly be unattractive? Has there ever been a totally bald man that attracted hot women without money, or fame?

Use this exercise and replace it with your insecurities.

Do you see what this is doing here? It’s attempting to BREAK DOWN your paradigm of the world. You have this belief, that reality is one way, based on your map, and this attempts to break it down, and give you a more accurate picture of the terrain by having you second guess, and readjust your paradigm about the world.

Much of the work from Real Social Dynamics, and David Deangelo are attempting to do this exact same thing.- smash the negative, and false beliefs that you have about yourself.

Let me tell your RIGHT NOW, there is nothing stopping you from going out tonight, absolutely owning the night, meeting a super hottie, and extracting. The only thing that’s stopping you is your false map.

Use this exercise and pick out your negative beliefs and use this to smash it. Find every thing that will totally disprove your beliefs. You think women only like guys with money… that’s BS! You think women only like guys that are physically attractive? THAT’S COMPLETE BS. Seriously.

Oh, and I recommend this book. Haven't finished it, but it's awesome so far.

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