In psychology we call this locus of control.

There are two kinds

external and internal

External locus of control: That test was too hard, I couldn't possible pass that.
You are blaming your environment for your situation.

Internal locus of control: I should've studied more, then I could've passed that test. You count yourself responsible for your actions.


How this applies in pick-up.

Do you think faith controls you?
Or
Do you control your own life?


My point is. Pointing fingers other than towards yourself, what does that do for YOU? If you blame something else what do you gain? Nothing. What if you blame yourself? you IMPROVE. Aren't we here for improving ourselves?
Pointing fingers doesn't get you anywhere.

Do you blame your looks for your lack of attractiveness? You can't change your looks unless you go through plastic surgery and even then I can assure you, you won't be happy. You got no CONTROL over external factors like looks or your environment. Look at the previous parts, starting to see a connection yet?

Dig inside, how can YOU make the best of your looks and your environment?instead of how can your looks and your environment make the best of you.


YOU define your situation.
Don't let your situation define you.

This is huge for inner game. Blame is the key to a lot of internal issues.

For example, you can have had a rough past like myself.

For years, I blamed different things, parents, past girlfriends, friends, high school experiences, drugs, I mean shit anything really. But all this did was push my real feelings towards myself aside and prolong them.

Blame is really just like a drug. It's a way to escape facing reality and facing the truth about how you feel and what really happened. I think people know deep down that they are responsible for every single reaction they have to external stimuli. So blaming allows for us to escape the real truth. We can put off the responsibility to some other thing that way we don't have to admit that we failed. We don't have to admit that we have faults. We can still lie to ourselves and tell ourselves "No I'm good man, I have all these external accomplishments in my life"

Everything is a way to run away from the truth and facing the reality that we are afraid, we all have fear we all have doubt we all have insecurity and it all stems from the way WE HANDLED OURSELVES. The worst part about it all is that we were the ones that made the mistakes in the first place.