So over over the course of a few days, certain things just clicked as I fell into a more natural yet far from developed game. I noticed one particular aspect at work when it comes to gaming, hopefully I will dispell some mis-information and help the community, and focus my thoughts onto one specific catagory : Attraction.

Firstly this was all observed in an all asian kareoke bar where I was the only white guy, talk about out of my comfort zone. Just a way i'm trying to escape the plague of comfort, but without further ado, lets get to the content.

Components of Attraction

There are several components that affect a girls attraction towards a male, they can be seen working in the Attraction Model: Attraction = Physical Attraction + Project Attraction -+ Approval + SPAM

Physical Attraction can be broken into three segments.

• Physically Good Looks, Personal Grooming, and Sexuality

Physically Good Looks is what you are naturally born with, a strong jaw line, nice eyes, and an overall attractive male. This is a static component, meaning that you can't adjust it, and it will always play an impact in determining Physical Attraction.

Personal Grooming is the most changeable component of Physical Attraction. Personal grooming encompasses hair styling, clothing style, and facial hair. This is everything a person CAN change about themselves to appear more clean cut to a woman. Changing clothes or shaving off a beard can increase a woman's attraction towards you as it relates to Physical Attraction. An example of Personal Grooming is when you look at a woman in jeans she might not look so hot, but if you put her into a nice dress, she might attract more masculine attention.

Sexuality is a touch component to understand, but I feel that it is a strong part of Physical Attraction. Its the way a person touches you, or walks around the room, but you can't place your finger on it. Sexuality is similar to lust. The best example I can give is that when you stick an average looking girl into lingerie, she suddenly becomes more then average. (If anyone wants to add to this, please let me know)

These 3 components all contribute to the Physical Attraction component of Attraction.


Project Attraction is a simple component to understand. Its the way a male projects themselves to other individuals and most importantly the female. This can take the form of confidence, stronger body language, leader of a group, personality, enthusiasm, ability to make a girl laugh, ability to hold an intelligent conversation, ability to entertain when necessary, and voice. These are all things that can change but are important factors that, combined with physical attraction, help develop overall attraction.


Approval is an interesting and complex component to understand. This is the only component that can decrease your overall attraction. Approval of friends, family, colleagues, and society plays an important role in influencing attraction a female has for a male. The best way to understand Approval is if you stare at a girl, you think shes good looking but you feel as if you have seen hotter girls. Your friends and family all comment that she is absolutely gorgeous, and when you look at her for a second time you "realize" that your family and friends were right. Social Proofing and Pre-Selection are all sub divisions of the approval component of Attraction.

Lastly SPAM can be used as a factor to determine attraction. This can never negatively influence attraction (unless your at a strip club) but often leaves a neutral impact on a females attraction for you. SPAM can help a female develop attraction for you based on where you are at the time that you are with her. If you meet the female at a mutual hobby convention, or at a library, ect, it shows an emotional connection or emotional side that she can observe to immitate the feeling that she knows you on a deeper level. Another way SPAM can be used to build attraction is at a bar/party, where everyone is hooking-up with each other. The SPAM forces attraction of you onto her so she can fit in better with the other attendees. Although a lesser component, SPAM can be used to increase attraction that leads to a long lasting relationship.

None of these components can be a negative number but approval. Each factor influences a womans overall attraction for a man. By understanding how attraction works, hopefully the community will see stronger results in their game.

P.S. Can a moderator please move this topic to PUA lounge, thank you.
P.S.S. If anyone has anything to add to this model please let me know.

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gg big post.

Nah but fo' rill ya'll diz iz sum shit u juz gahta reed nah meen

It's pretty informative, gives a really good overview of the main components of attraction itself, good job.

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This post aint too bad, my man.

Thing is, project attraction just sounds like a mix of, like, state/body language etc

Approval just sounds like social proof.

SPAM is a cool thing, that probably aint been touched on as much. And clearly a good way to use things to your advantage.

Cool stuff.

ANY YOSHI APPROVES!!!

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SS_Trunks:I asked her for an extra pen, confidently....

Attraction is like a glass that is half full and half empty. The other side that is full satisfyes her primary needs and the side that is empty keeps her thirsty enough to crave some more.

BTW, this post has some stuff that can be related to my e book.
Good post.

[ Johnny B ]

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Is this really our model(lol)-I like it.

Before you got to the nitty gritty of the model,you mentioned being at an all-Asian venue or something where you were the only white dude beng out of your comfort zone. I've put myself in similar situations just to work on being comfortable out of element.

Im not a religious person at all. But just to make myself comfortable in other elements,I actually went to church(lol). I hated the idea but I just did it for inner-game purposes.

Im a supporter of the Labor Party in Antigua & Barbuda(a Caribbean island)but I showed up at the opposing party's rally just to get comfortable out of my comfort zone-and it worked!!!! That's ultimate mind control-inner game. Put me in a club in a strange town and I'll fucking work that shit(lol)!!! [/list]

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I really like this post, and I'm pretty impressed with how you broke things down so well. Vin Dicarlo also talks about attraction and breaks it down in his own way, and one important point he mentions is "attainability". I first read about it here:

http://www.directnaturalgame.com/Game-T ... ction.html

It's a hidden point that seems to govern quite a few of people's attraction switches, and these very same people may even be in denial about its existence. Thinking about it may even help to explain the one-itus thing; the guy thinks that he has a better chance with her than with a "new girl", and therefore he continues chasing her like there's no tomorrow (so as not to sound like a hypocrite, this did happen to me too).

I believe that the attainability factor seems to factor in more with guys over girls, or may even factor completely differently with both genders, and I'll give you a classic example:

Guy befriends girl. Girl befriends guy. Guy believes girl is attainable, and friendship can go "somewhere". Girl knows guy is attainable, but isn't interested. Guy tries to escalate, gets shot down with LJBF anti-love missles.

Though I'm not saying that it isn't a factor with girls, if it is, I personally believe it's much less, or it works differently. I noticed how most "normal" guys I know (non-naturals, non-PUA's) seem to have crushes on "normal female friends" rather than strangers and would like to take these friendships further. I am pretty sure this crush is due to their misleading perception of attainability of the female friend in question, and possibly why such a crush may sometimes develop after they start getting closer to the girl, not before (I am not saying that "getting to know the girl" isn't a factor either, but it's not as big a factor as most guys make themselves think).

I believe, with girls, it MAY be the other way round; while with guys the "she's attainable" may lead to increased affection towards the girl, with girls it may actually be "I like him, but he seems to be just out of reach" that triggers their attraction circuitry. This may also be a natural characteristic of an "Alpha Male"/"Natural" to make a girl feel that way, which is why "neediness" is frowned down upon in this community, as it demonstrates too much attainability. I often like to use the following analogy when speaking about some of my past experiences with girls. Girls are like cats. Dangle a piece of thread just out of their reach, and they will chase it like crazy. But once it's between their paws, they lose interest and move on to another challenge.

I believe coming to a conclusion about this will help determine how much to push (in push-pull, Swinggcat), or neg (MM), or be cocky (in cocky/funny, DD), breaking rapport (AFCAdam), or whatever the name of the act of "pushing them away" is in the methods you read. What do you think?