Lifestyle is far too often overlooked. In my opinion, people spend way too much time thinking of what to say and how to act, when what they should really worry about is how to live. There is no true one way to live your life, and no one can tell you to live a certain way. Only you can do that. Therefore, the 'VIP Lifestyle' in the title of this post is completely subjective - it will be different for everybody.

The only universally negative 'lifestyle' that everyone can share is not living the lifestyle that they want to. Kind of vague, but I'm sure you can agree that the definition of a VIP Lifestyle isn't too hard.

VIP LIFESTYLE 101

1. Sitting inside when you know you should be out socializing.

Of course, some nights you need to get things done and you can't party all the time. What you really need to ask yourself is this:
"What am I going to be doing instead of socializing?"
If it is something more productive and leads you towards another aspect of your personalized VIP lifestyle, then you shouldn't regret staying in as long as you actually work towards this goal. If you sit inside watching TV, napping, eating, crying, playing Call of Duty, or looking at porn all night when you could be out socializing, having a good time, and picking up women (/ practicing your game) then you need to rethink your agenda.

2. Hobbies, hobbies, hobbies.

This is where YOU come in. Everyone's own personality and likes / dislikes will alter this section. Do what you want to do. Want to go skydiving? Go skydiving. Want to take wine tasting classes? Take wine tasting classes. Want to become an actor? Take acting classes and get an agent. All of these things that you want to do you need to act on. Stop dreaming and start being. Do what you dream, be what you dream, and as cliche as that sounds (and as cliche as 'as cliche as that sounds' sounds as well..) this couldn't be more true.

There are some other hobbies that are recommended whether you like them or not, though, that greatly add to the VIP lifestyle, like exercising, eating healthy, socializing regularly, pursuing goals, pushing yourself, a career / job, school and education, and the list goes on. The time for rest comes later, and the time for action is now.

That's it for now. The VIP Lifestyle may sound superficial, but it is only about being the you that you want to be. It's about living for life, and living for you, fulfilling your aspirations and quitting the negative vibes. And building an attractive lifestyle is integral to your success with women.

Let me know what you guys think, positive or negative feedback appreciated.

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-Sharplin
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This "VIP Lifestyle" you described, is actually a good way to attract females, and even just cool friends.

Take pictures of all your events and what you do. Women like an exciting guy who has a touch of "bad boy" to him.

And having hobbies is huge. I mountainbike, roadbike, hike, travel, and party. Get photos of yourself "livin it up" doing all your activities and what not. Make sure there's some women in those photos

I was told my by EX gf that I hang out with "really cool and attractive people." I never even thought about it. Nor do I find myself awesome or "VIP" but I do know how to have a good time.

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TBH the "VIP" lifestyle it's too often looked at for PU. And in my opinion overly so.

You're right in that being productive is awesome, it can really get you places. However I still would be reluctant to call mere enjoyment a waste of time.

Pleasure is pleasure, I think it's good to just enjoy something for i's own sake, sometimes fun doesn't actually need anything else to be tagged onto it for it to be a worth-while past-time.

In all honesty I am one who believes PU is all about how you act and what you say... and as a result of these what you convey about yourself, and once you have the correct mixture of arousal, attraction and rapport it's all just logistics.

A productive lifestyle will help you practise more in PU and develop attractive qaulities to use but it's direct effect on PU outside of that is minimal.

Good insight here. When I was emphasizing the 'go out and do big things' part, I actually overlooked the smaller things that matter.

Like you said, if you're doing things for the right reasons, any thing at all - whether skydiving or hanging out with friends, it all contributes to what I described as a 'VIP Lifestyle', but which could also be referred to as a fun and happy life.

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-Sharplin
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Good insight here. When I was emphasizing the 'go out and do big things' part, I actually overlooked the smaller things that matter.

Like you said, if you're doing things for the right reasons, any thing at all - whether skydiving or hanging out with friends, it all contributes to what I described as a 'VIP Lifestyle', but which could also be referred to as a fun and happy life.[/quote]

I'd agree with you right there, if you are living a life, such as you are doing precisely what you want to be doing every day. Then you are in a good life.

However I tend to reserve some concerns for this subject.. ..A "good" lifestyle is a great trait to have but I think it's a good trait to have for human beings, period.

Would you care to explain to me, why, it is a trait that should be particularly focused on a PUA?

Women are attracted to lifestyle. I think you'd agree that a miserable, unhappy, unfulfilled and unexciting guy who doesn't do anything would be less attractive to a woman than an exciting, adventurous, happy, fulfilled guy who lives the lifestyle he chooses.

But yeah, I see where you're coming from here. It's kind of a universal trait, it isn't particularly specific to PUA alone. But women are attracted to not only a man's personality, but an attractive lifestyle, which is what I was trying to emphasize here.

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Well firstly, I'd suggest you take a look into Lord Byron, he easily outfucked the famous "Giacomo Casanova" and he was someone really fucked up and is remembered not only as a hugely influencial social figure and poet, but also as a very traumatised and upset man.

I like to use him to show that, sexual feelings, and being that fun guy who's always doing something fun and interesting aren't equasls.

Hot guys fuck women; becuase they are hot. Fun, social, interesting guys fuck women because "something happens" when a girl comes to hang out with him or when someone meets him.

Does that make sense to you?

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This all depends on your definition of attraction. A girl may want to fuck you, but not get in a relationship, similarly you may make an attractive friend or even partner, but not neccassarily a great choice for a one night stand.

In terms of attraction, lifestyle is only a concern when a girl sums you up for a relationship or is trying to assess who you are.

A VIP lifestyle makes you, "fun" possibly "interesting" and good to have around... I wouldn't actually say that it generates any sexual feelings, you can have a great lifestyle, in which case you are a great guy.

But being a great guy and.. ..a great guy who I'd like to fuck; are different things.

Fact is it's quite often that a great guy will lose out to "a guy I'd like to fuck". Maybe not socially, but most definatly sexually.

Your thoughts?

great lifestyle