Since I've been single I've had one goal: get at least 5 number per week. Now that i;m back at college I'm realizing that goal. In the past week I've noticed a few things when number closing girls. The first is initial reluctance or hesitation in giving there number to me. I'm a conversationalist and often can keep things moving along smoothly however a few times when I ask for the number with a line like "well you should give me your number and maybe we'll see what's good sometime" I get an "ummmm short pause yeah it's XXX XXXX". Do any of you guys experience this hesitation? is there something I can do to cut down on this or a specific aspect of my game I can address to fix this issue?

Another thing I experience is the smoothness in my tone of voice. rather I can confidently strike up a conversation but often I stumble over a word or two (not terribly) and when I ask for a number occasionally my voice gets a little shaky

Thoughts?
Suggestions?
Ideas?

whenever you ask any question, to anyone. The pressure is on them.
THEY have to come up with an answer. not you.

Realising this makes things so much easier.

The pause is normal, they just test out how you handle the tension. Key is to shut up after asking their number. The pressure simply isn´t on you.
Joking it off breaks the tension and doesn´t get you a number.


I stumble on my words often, it doesn´t matter, I`m cool with it.
`your beauty makes me stumble`


Hope it helps

"how can we continu this converstion?"

or any other thing that can make her want to give her number to you without you actually asking

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It's a huge IOI if she comes up with the answer.

I can see that being alot more comfortable for them. Saying something that says "hey give me you number" in a more smooth and subtle way, but still prompts her to do so. I was just thinking earlier this evening that some girls seem surprised when I ask and I think I know why. I'm moving things along very quickly, and not really allowing things to develop. I've noticed I have much more positive responses if I talk to a girl throughout a class rather than at a bus stop on campus for five minutes. But, I think I could use time-sensitive conversations to my advantage with that subtle way of asking that makes her give me my number without actually asking. I also think that when I have the time to converse with a girl over class directly asking will be a much more comfortable situation for her.
I need a memory refresher, if she doesn't answer do I call back at all?

... another thing, you can set day-2 without asking for the number, and she'll give the number to you because of the day-2 and not because of the number...

get it?... you should have a reason to get her number, beyond the feeling of a #-close, she will sense that youre goal is the # and not her

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