It seems like I spend most of my time rethinking all of the commonly accepted dogmas in pickup. There are so many things that people blindly believe without understanding. Or maybe it just means that you need experience to see it.

One of those dogmas is the "I dont give a fuck" attitude. Yeah, I know, you fight to get there, you climb the "inner game ladder" to get to the point where you can feel that way! And proudly you exclaim, I dont give a fuck! I dont care!

Until you get over it. When you understand what it is really about. It is not wrong to give a fuck! To care about things is human and we should keep doing just that.


What you shouldnt do is letting stuff bother you. There is a time to care and a time to not care. It all depends.

Example 1: You are out sarging, the girls in the set calls you a loser and walks away. Do not let it bother you, dont care!

Example 2: A girl that you truly "love" tells you that something you do really hurts hur feelings. Of course you should care!

Example 3: A friend tells you that you are behaving like a jerk! You should care!

Example 4: A friend tells you that you are behaving like a jerk because he is jealous. Dont let it bother you.

So you see. The "I dont give a fuck" attitude is just that, an attitude that you can bring out where it seems fit. It is not a mindset to go around with all the time! It is a tool, a routine, just like everything else.

Ezo

tbh, this is pretty obvious. Those who don't get this should really just give up and rinse themselves because game really isn't for them.

Because its obvious for you, doesn't mean it's obvious for everyone.

noone should "just" give up because they haven"t realized one thing or two

As a matter of fact... It is not obvious. It is one of the most annoying traits of the new PUA. They abuse the "dont give a shit mentality". And they use it as an excuse to not do difficult things.

Reminds me of the attitude of the guy in the 'I will spit in a women's mouth next time I k-close' thread. They are so concerned about becoming a bad guy about having the I don't give a fuck attitude that they loose sight of how they really are and lose all their core beliefs. That core peosonality is one of the things that will make a women stay around in the long run and will make you fell genuine and good about yourself.

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