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The Power Of Your Mind ( Mindset ) Shapes Your Reality

What you think inside your head and how you feel from the inside is the thing that shapes and alters your reality. Your mind is something that has a huge impact on how you ” act ” and how you communicate when you are sosializing with others or even when you are not doing a thing. Why? Because the way you think or see the world through your thoughts reflects in your physical behaviour through your consciouss/ subconscioussess level.

I´ll give you an example:

Imagine a guy in a bar who has a strong mindset. This mindset of his beholds thoughts of having who ever he wants. They are already his ( im talking about girls ). All he needs to do is to approach and open his mouth. There is no risks or fears because he can always have a hotter one. She is virtually already in his bed ( inside his thoughts ).

Now, imagine a HB10 standing in that very same bar holding a drink on her hand next to a dance floor. When this guy goes and starts a conversation with her its way more relaxed and fluent due to his mindset. He doesent care who she is or what she looks like because he knows that this girl is already trapped.
So what does this mean? It means that his mindset is shaping his reality. How? Because he is acting through his subconsciouss/ conscioussness level. He aint nervous but instead one solid peace of manhood due to those thoughts of his. He aint looking for validation but instead leading this girl one step in a time into his bed. His bodylanguage and voice tonality is more solid and stronger than the guy who is standing next him who only wishess to meet someone like her in some day. All this you are thinking inside your mind shapes your reality and she can see it. How? Through your bodylanguage, your voice tonality, your more relaxed and not validation seeking behaviour. She is just a pawn among the others inside your mind and this pulls her nearer to you because she wants a piece of you. Why? Because you have something that could improve her quality of life. You are an independent person who doesent lean toward woman inorder to stay straight. You are a king inside your thoughts instead of a slave.

Now lets take a look at the second guy who has a ” bad ” mindset:
What seperates this guy from the first guy are the thoughts that are driving his physical behaviour through his mindset. Instead of ” she is already mine ” this guy is thinking ” Whoa, if only i could make love with her”. Can you spot the difference? The first guy is driven by the thought that she is already his and the second guy is slowly putting her on the pedestal ” wishing ” she was his. Yes, this pedestal may be a kongitive factor ( it doesent exist physically ) but when he is thinking this in his mind, he is actually doing this in reality ( he brings that imaginative pedestal into his reality by showing way too much positive attenttion toward her ). She is now the price instead of you compared to what it would be when observing the first guy ( because the first guy has an image in his head that she already is his, than this means that he wont bring the pedestal into the game. In fact, he is the price and not her ).
So, when the second guy approaches this HB10 he is acting like a pussy because he brings his imaginative ” if only ” world from his head into the reality. His mindset is shaping his reality because he is acting through those thoughts of his where she is something that he cant have. He is nervous, he has a bad bodylanguage ( looking at the floor or holding his arms crossed ) and he simpply cant operate fluently do to those fears. Due to that pedestal where she has more value than you have. So in the end this guy ends up blowing this whole thing into the air? Why? Because of his mindset which altered his reality so much that he actually brought his imaginative world into the field ( reality ) which reflected through his behaviour and words.

Your mind can be the most powerfull tool in your kit when you start to understand it.

[ Johnny B ]

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This is a great post Johnny, you are pretty much describing the difference between an AFC and a PUA, in the evolution towards becoming a PUA, the mindset (or inner game) is the most important aspect! No doubt!

Too many guys don't understand this and become dependent on irrelevant things such as what clothes to wear or what lines to use.

Your brain comes first and the rest will follow!

Ps. I miss you on the chat Johnny!

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I think this is what is starting to happen to me like I posted it my other thread. Cheers for helping me to understand it better.

This applies to most endeavours in life.

I liked this part a lot. Actually I'm having a date with a very loverly girl next saturday and I've been quite honestly been gitery about it. I haven't felt that in a long while (I've had plenty of dates, believe me). So with my PUAish training I've been trying to stay calm, push down the needyness and make the right move. But that last line really made all the buterflies go away. Very powerfull tought that I had forgotten.


I would like to propose a twist to your though though. Something inspired to me by "The Power of Now". The first guy, who has a strong mindset, could also be in the same mindframe if he lived in the now instead of past and future. Not having a proper mind set per say but rather to stop listening to his mind. Then, only the now matters. There is no consequences beyond that. Shut off the voice in your head, shut off the fears that speak up. Just like like this is your last day and do it. Do it with calmness that comes only with knowing that there is no other time that exists but now. Apreaciate the way she looks now, the way your heart pounds, the way you walk up to her, the way you speak out. Make the actual moment the goal, no the end.

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100% true but how do you obtain this mindset?

for myself, i'm highly energetic (Jav mentioned it already), this i use to maintain this mindset.

for those whom are less energetic those need others/tools to get 'in-state' acording to my personal experience.

@ Johnny B: Great post, respect!

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^So your high energy "tells you" that you can game any girl in the bar?

Actions have consequences.

This is a good guestion.
I found myself doing this in my everyday action where ever i was. Just watching at girls , trying to get eye contact, give a smile and than thinking how "effortless" the whole episode would be. After this i found myself doing it in clubs when i actually noticed what i was really doing during the day time; which was playing a game inside my mind where every hot girl i saw was like a new fish in my aquarium( it was pretty wierd when i actually noticed what i was really doing because after that i found myself smiling, acting more relaxed and having more confidence )
This sounds like a huge ego ( hard to describe without sounding like a marthyr ) but its like a game inside my head like i was talking to.

So long story short.
I found myself doing this subconscioussly where ever i was and after when i saw what i was doing, i applied it into a bar scene. I dont know if the word " apply " is the correct term but what i mean is that i was much more aware of how i was thinking... the structure of my mindset became more clearer. I mean i was doing this when i was sitting in a buss, walking on a street, in a shopping mall.... etc. It just became a habbit which i was more aware off.
So basically this could be one of the ways where you are becomming more aware of your natural instics ( your interest toward hot girls ), changeing your mindset from " if only " into a " she is mine " and than embraceing it all in a deeper level through your understanding and finally bringing it into action via your everyday action ( where ever you move you are one with this mindset through your consciouss/ subconsciouss level ).

Everybody knows the feeling you get when a really hot girl wearing a mini skirt passes by on a beach and you start thinking " WHOA!" " If only i could touch that body of hers ". And changeing this " If only " mindset into a " Shes mine " thinking.

I hope that guys who are reading this wont mix this into their egos because its not what im actually trying to explain here. This is just something that is strongering your mindset via everyday action and there fore should help you to smooth your game. I dont mean that you go to her, call her a bitch and trying to put your hand into her pants... It should be something that covers your back and widers your comfort zone into a much more wider space so you can operate your game in a much more relaxed and fluent way without having the fear concerning the outcome because you KNOW that she is going home with you.

[ Johnny B ]

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actually kasabi, my high energy causes me to open ANY girl i want.
it doesnt give magical signs of any kind, if thats what your meaning

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