| I see a lot of this hanging around lately.
False hope, ways out, ways to avoid the difficulties.
Just one example is the pheromone spray (which still doesnt work since sexhormones dont exist in the human physiology).
Another example is the Mystery method. Or insert method here.
The routines! The negs, the new routines, the canned openers, aaaaaaah!!!!!
People what Im trying to say here is that all of these things are fast fixes to something that is not gonna be fixed in a short time period. It is like having an old car and painting over it, it is not gonna make it run better.
So hey, what if pheromones work, then you just spray it on and get all the girls you want without doing anything. How convenient. Plus you will still be the little nerdy guy that you have always been.
So what if the MM works. Great, just learn a few lines and you are guaranteed that you will have all the girls you want. Sweet, so you just repeat whatever and may get far enough to sleep with some poor girl.
What if the routines work. You neg the girl and bring her down far enough to slip below your pitiful selfconfidence level. You have created an inferior being that has no choice but to worship you. How proud you must be.
Ok, enough with the blasting everybody else into tiny bits.
The thing is, none of these things will make you attractive. None of them will make YOU! more attractive! They may make you seem more attracted for a little while. If you put a paperbag over your head and tell people that you are Richard Gere, they may believe you for a short time. Until someone takes a look.
You may seem attractive until someone figures out that behind that paperbag you are not all that...
Searching for a fast lane to coolness is not gonna get you anywhere. You cannot buy coolness in a spraycan, you cannot learn a magic word for coolness. It comes from within.
What you buy is false hope. Maybe maybe there will be a product of secret phrase that will make in unnecessary to face my fears, to avoid that boring inner game crap, to avoid going out in field and hurt my precisous frail selfconfidence.
Guess what, false hope. There is no way around it. You HAVE to go out there. You HAVE to expose yourselves to the risk of being hurt, rejected, looking stupid, being a loser. It is OK to be a loser as long as you are soing something about it.
We have all started out like that! Ask anyone of the more experienced PUAs on this forum how many times they have been rejected or crashed and burned. It is gonna be a lot! We have all tried a hundred things that didnt work. It is all part of the learning process.
So if you want the change to come fast, accept the fact that you are gonna get exposed to the thing that you fear the most, a pickup. Stop searching for ways around it and get on it! Go out there, get the experience. Do not take it personally if you fail! If you are gonna learn fast you gotta increase the number of sets you open in a short timeperiod. That is the only way!
Go out there and rock the world!
Ezo
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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.
bbardot: you just reminded me about porn
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