Lets Get Real

Many people who understand my stance as a successful person with women always ask me this same question at some point in learning about myself. They ask...

"Can you approach people the same way? Even though patterns are developed, do you have to go about your sets differently?"

And I say people have many different beliefs, different values, and ultimately different personalities. Many of which are set by their cultures. But what stands alone is that humans all have the same needs. And our nervous systems function the same way.

For Example...

We've all seen an athlete walk out on the court, and we say to ourselves "He's going to miss that shot." You know it. He's lacking that certainty, that complete edge, that state of mind. That state can be triggered. It's neurologically in us all. And it's true that when you're in that state and you're talking to a woman, you're not even thinking about things to say to her, or DHV stories, or negs, or anything of the such. Same way how athletes perform, they don't think, but do. IT'S ALL ABOUT THE STATE. So I say be more worried about finding that state, rather than worrying about how to work a woman differently.

So how do we find that state? And more importantly...sustain it for the rest of our lives?

To do so, I must say. How is someone when they are depressed? How is their body language effecting them? Are they talking loud or quiet? Fast or slow? Every bit of that biochemically changes you. That causes most of us to use drugs to change our biochemistry. And isn't it so true that we're living in an over medicated generation?

Like how many times have you been out to a party, and you say "Man, I've really got a headache." And someone says, "Here, try a Xanax.", and you respond, "That's not for headaches.", but they're like "Trust me, this will work."?

Us, as a society, are not taking full responsibility for ourselves anymore. We're catered to, and we believe that all our feelings come from something within ourselves.

The biggest thing missing through meaning is depth. So many of us have so much dread but not enough depth. And that's when life becomes meaningless. So then we try and learn from something that may bring meaning to our lives, and that can be anything from drugs to alcohol to even pick-up.

So why do we become depressed (Which, by the way, is why most of us look towards women to "save" us)?

Lets Get Down To The Cause

When your life doesn't match your expectations, there's going to be some pain. Like...lets look at any area of your life that you're pleased with. And ask yourself, "Do I like this area of my life, because it meets my expectations?". Then lets look at an area of your life that you're unpleased with. Chances are it's your relationship status, or you're social life in general...and ask yourself the same question. It's ALWAYS your perception of greatness that causes you pain!!!

To show my point even more. I'll paint a picture for you.

The holidays are coming soon. Thanksgiving is next Thursday here in the United States, and Christmas is right around the corner. For those of us whom are grown-ups and know the truth about Christmas and Santa, how do we feel about Christmas? Honestly, for myself and many of us, we collectively despise Christmas. Why is that?

Hollywood paints a picture of Christmas for us that is almost NEVER duplicated. It just can not be done, because it's easy to have emotions force fed to us and it's happier to live through people vicariously, than to live our own boring lives. So we live with all these expectations about the perfect Christmas holiday. Then when the holidays DO come around, what anguish do we feel when we realize that every emotion we feel isn't because of generosity and people being happy, but that it's mechanical and false, and driven by reasons other than love and compassion. It happens every year.

So in reality, what we must do is mentally change our blueprint, our core beliefs, in order for us all to succeed, and to have a stable state of mind. And that is the only way we'll be able to pull from our experiences, the good and the bad, to be able to reach people on a significant level, and touch other peoples lives.

I say let go of those dreams you have, and realize that life is better when you do things when you want to. Don't get someone a gift, just because you have to. Don't let others tell you "No", because the fact is that "civilized" people are so drawn into the false reality than anybody. Think of what really matters to you...(EXAMPLE: Family). And find ways to draw that energy, that matter into something you legitimately don't feel confident in. And you'll come to see that becoming "In State" is easy.

You'll be able to approach women...not because you want to...but because in your mind it's the only way to meeting your goals in life. And you'll be in state, which shelters you from looking at your own expectations, and the girls expectations from you...and you'll feel good and positive about every interaction you have with someone, regardless if it was stellar or unsatisfying.

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You all take 'er easy. And if she's easy, take her twice.