Take into account a person who lives in a large city. You are 1 out of 15,000,000 and if you live in America then you are 1 out of 288,000,000 after that you are You are 1 out of 6,000,000,000 and that is a large number.

In theory then, we are ignorant of what the world has to offer us. How can we choose what is the best path for us to take. How do we know we are making the right decision.

Guidance.

Without guidance we are left to choose on what is available to us. We are blinded by our naive ignorance. We can not see far into the furture like a parent or mentor can.

We, therefore, choose based on how far down the road we are. We choose based on what we have seen. The choices we make, reflect our limited knowledge and the existance of our surrounds (environment). How can we grow into something better if we don't know what better is. Salesmen are valued because they can provide a soultion or better way of life that was previous unknown.

We have to choose a mentor.

After we choose a mentor we listen and trust - then he/she becomes a part of us. We become so similiar to our mentor we constantly look to his or her guidance for each choice we make - when faced with a delima. Thats why they say if you roll with dogs long enough you will eventually learn to bark.

Is it possible to have a mentor or role model without knowing him or her personally. Yes! Many of us have paid for the advice and guidance of PUA's that teach us how to pick up girls. Most of it's helpful, if only, for the the simple fact it motivates us to try.

Where is our guidance now - further down the road, years later. Now, I am left to fend for myself. I have no where to turn. I need to be more social, and manage school at the same time. I find it impossible to have friends because all my friends drink. I don't want to drink anymore. I am choosing "good habits" to last me for the rest of my life, but I can't find people who have a purpose like mine. My good habits are things that doctors and leaders of the community tell me to do. Example: Don't drink too much, don't have unprotected sex, don't eat unhealthy food, etc..

Maybe I am looking in the wrong spots. Currently, I attend a 2 year university. I wonder if I should be able to find some females and friends at a NICER 4 year university. I don't think that will be my answer. I am pretty sure I can find cool people at my current school of thirty thousand people. So, the question is. How do I improve my social circle, maintian my grades, stop drinking, and provide for happy and successful habits NOW?

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Walk Hard

Careful dude, this is a dangerous path to be on.

Every time something has gone really bad for me in my life--EVERY time-- it was because I took somebody else's advice against my own judgment. Just because someone who's a supposed "expert" in a given matter tells you behaving a certain way is the best/healthiest/most ideal way to do something doesn't make it so.

By the way, my advice here includes anything you might read on these boards. Know yourself, trust yourself. Everything else follows suit behind that.

Your boy,
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