I want to know all the hints, tips, and tricks that help you guys get into state when you go out. That's probably the biggest problem I had tonight and just fought through it, it sucked.

State is mental and physical.

If you change your Physicality, you can change your state.

If you change your Mentality, you can change your state.

you can change your physicality by jumping up and down, yelling, doing keg stands, or other stuff like that. Do Tim's 20 minute of Woo Clap. It works very well. Also going for the makeout even when its not the correct time gets you into state. This kind of state is easy to get and results in a high energy feel. Woooo as Tim puts it in Flawless Natural or "Bush Fire."

You can change your state mentally by having a calmness in your mind and being in the moment and aligned with your core self. This kind of state is harder to develope. Its low energy but yet not boring. "Burning Coal" as Tyler Durden puts it in Blueprints.

Also not that you dont have to be in state to pick up girls. "I'm not in state" should not be an excuse to now approach/go out.

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well obviously it differs between different men but i always think of GOOD past experiences, really funny things iv said to girls etc..

Say to yourself your gonna meet gorgeous new girls (COZ U FUKIN ARE!!!) and that your gonna go out n have FUN!!!!!!!!

Itsnt that what pick up is about? Have fun n meet girls n your all set.

go get them tiger

Apart from using NLP exercises music helps me.
Masturbation tend to ruin your sexual state because it gives you a notion that you don't really need women, and being on that sexual edge really helps your game!

But NLP offers a lot of exercises and help to put you in that perfect state!

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Yeah I'd love some advice on this. Have been sick for the past few days and last night I tried my best but shit kept going wrong and I couldn't get in state and my game was just dreadful! I really needed something to pick me up and get me into it and I just couldn't do it.

i have trouble getting in "the state", but when i do its all good ...

I'm rarely in a sexual state. When I go out, I go out with the intention of having a good time and if I wind up meeting someone, great, and if not? Oh well, I'm sure I had a good time.

Then again I'm usually always depressed or pissed off and dont really believe in myself, which could be why I'm never usually a sexual guy.

How to get into state? Well thats just NLP. I could tell you wich book to read, but it all comes down to knowing hot to motivate yourself. For example, when I want to motivate myself to study, I think that it would be kickass to be know as a good economist, and prove myself to my teachers and shit (economics major). That works for me. When I want to get into game state, I just get into a fun mood, like "I'm gonna have the best time ever". Everything else just sets itself into place when I'm in that state.

I think that is dangerous to think that you have to be in a "sexual state". I've seen hundreds of guys eye-raping a girl, in a club, in the bus, and even in church. Thats not cool. You can be fun AND sexual, but fun always comes first.

If you need any additional help on NLP and shit, read introducing NLP.

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Try veering away from relying on a specific state before being able to approach. Don't you want to be able to see someone on the street while going about your daily routine and be able to approach them while being your true self? (and i mean your true CONSISTENT self).

Confidence should not be dependent on state. Focus on her and be genuinely interested and curious about her, this will automatically take your mind off any self conscious and negative thoughts. I'm sure at some point you have been in a conversation where you were genuinely curious and were itching to know certain things about the other person.... well don't you notice how the conversation just naturally flowed? You did not need to think of what to say, your curiosity and genuine interest led you along. There is really no show to put on, you are expressing and not impressing, end of story. This makes a women moist beyond belief! And you will be seen as being 100% comfortable in your own skin. Public speakers use the same technique, they are focused on the audience, not themselves.

Walk around with an appreciative and curious mindset at all times, you will find you do not 'need' confidence from anywhere.

This small mindset shift has changed my game more than any other. Ive quoted him before and I'll quote him over and over again....Vin Dicarlo.

I like the idea of being honestly curious.

However, don't you think that advice can easily backfire and lead a guy to start doing really AFC things like asking a lot of interview questions "so...what do you do? where are you from? etc. etc. ?

Can someone give a concrete example of using NLP to motivate themselves / get in state, etc., like an actual step by step guide please?

Stop thinking about state and have fun, that's the only right way of doing it.


Being in state is NOT a magic bullet

Okay, here's an example. I took a nap and woke up and my buddy and I decided to go to the club. I'm tired at the club and it's hard having a fun time because I feel so lazy. I was wondering if there was a way or method I could use to change my state or whatever you want to call it.

yea i need to figure this out too.... im never ina fun mood... and theres no reasonm not to be :S ive also noticed over the years ive been becoming more anti-social... im probably depressed

I have a ritual:

Being rested I find helps me a lot & I always try to take a 2 hour nap pre game around 5:30.

I when I wake up I lay there and listen to some affirmations i recorded. I use a lot of NLP too. I recently started using the swish pattern, also look up hypnoticas football walk. Couple easy NLP exercises I suggest.

take a shower & get ready

I meditate a bit and relax a bit just before I go out then I listen to music in the car im into that week.

When you get there to the club you'll usually start falling out of state, I might even get a little nervous walking up to it, so I start relaxing, take a couple breaths, fire off some positive anchors which normally gets me thinking about positive times which I set them with where I owned. Then as Im walking in Ill try to clear my head and observe my thoughts IE Eckhart Tolle


If I can't I just try to accept what ever the situation, find some positives in it and be comfortable, and jump in and get some warm up sets. Even if a girl smiles at me across the room or even if I talk to a dude I pretty easily jump into state at that point.

I suggest starting at a warm up bar and having a couple beers as well, then head to your destiantion.

Probably make it way more difficult than I should but the shit works for me.

There are plenty other questions one can ask to find out what she's about, ask her if shes traveled, what her childhood dream was when she was a little girl etc etc.

Example...
This curious mindset in general has already created a natural opener that I use very often, and I am genuine about it. Most girls are a lot 'naughtier' than they claim to be (they love being naughty, it gives them a sense of adventure and excitement...and they want guys to subtley know this about them without being perceived as sluts)...so I often open with....'ok seriously, do you realize that you have one of the naughtiest faces on planet earth?'...they laugh/smile...'really?'...'no seriously youre like a little girl thats just stolen something from a candy store, im keeping my wallet close to me tonight with you being around.'. Immediately she go's into 'naughty child' mode. This works for so many reasons, youre giving her this 'naughty' persona to live up to, and naughty is ambiguous as it could mean 'child naughty' OR sexual naughty, there is so much you can do with this. And of course due to girls being sexual beings, naughty will mean sexual naughty (in the back of their mind anyway). So, you get to speak to her about a topic that turns her on, but at the same time is indirect and respects her social reputation of being perceived as a slut. She knows youre talking about sex, you know youre talking about sex, but its simply a 'knowing' between the 2 of you.

Now you can start asking if shes really as naughty as her face suggests etc etc and gradually she will reveal her personality (which you are GENUINELY interested in). When she says to me..'no im not naughty, im a good girl!' (most common answer)...I say 'good girl??? I cant even speak to you anymore.'. She will now start trying to qualify herself as this naughty and adventurous girl (this is known as shaping). When she says something you like to hear, reward with kino. What I love about this is that the whole conversation is based on a sexual innuendo which creates sexual tension from the word go. Now that youve both established that shes a naughty girl, you can go into further questions like 'ok so if youre really that naughty, whats the naughtiest/craziest thing youve ever done'...after her answer im sure youve got some naughty stories up your own sleeve which you would share with her. You dont get much more sexual than sharing stories of this nature while rewarding with kino...after sharing such secrets she would be in a position where she is comfortable enough to tell you her favorite sexual position. If this isnt sexual tension I dont know what is. (imagine how shes going to 'prove' her naughtyness to you when you finally get into the bedroom...Im talking serious fireworks here.). When you tell her you need to get back to your friends (if you dont plan on taking her home), tell her you need to get back to your friends before she steals your wallet off you. How can this not get a good reaction?

As you can see this is far from asking afc questions...try to keep a curious mind about her in a sexual manner. And I mean really...dont tell me you need to 'get into state' to be able to tell a girl she has a naughty/suspicious/mischievous face. What is the worst that can happen....only good things!