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You may want to go into the PUA chat to talk about this, it seems pretty complicated (and as a result, would take a lot of posts) to answer.
I'd personally focus on the needy part, as that seems really strange to me. Only thing that comes to mind is that since your investing so much in getting the girls now, you are likely to value them higher than if you never had to work for it.
Thanks for that bro. Sounds about right on the head with the valuing them more because I worked hard for them. Damn! Talk about some reverse psychology.
I used game to game myself!
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I'd say masturbate 8 times a day and some of that should be to gay porn. It'll help your needy-ness A LOT
Doing this will derail your focus on sex, and even when you think of sex it'll be of gay sex. Therefore your focus will be less on the girl and she'll find you more attractive because you just don't "give a fuck!" Works like a charm for me.
Never expect an outcome when you're talking to girls - talk to them as if you're just there to have some fun and flirt. Don't have fun the friendzone way, make sure you escalate kino (I know this is very hard)
Also escalating kino TOO hard can make you seem needy, so this is a icky topic.
LOL! I'll give spankin it more a try. Although I couldn't possibly bring myself to do it to gay porn. Tell you the truth, I don't even like regular anal porn, much less gay anal porn! LOL!
I must say, the spanking it before you go out sarging thing didn't work for me. It zapped my testosterone and killed my drive for approach. I ended up being more interested in talking with my friends, and they got annoyed because they wanted to sarge!
I'm pretty comfy with kino. I know how to read when its not enough, and I know what too much is (had to draw the creepy line to learn it, but lesson learned fo sho).
I'm not terrible at pick up (I'm not great either though), I'm just experiencing some of the first side effects from assimilating this into my life-style. Trying to build a balance so that I don't fail at school and life.
Thanks for your response!
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Try to focus 80% on inner game for now and leave the 20% to outer game until you feel complacent. Also, I agree with Hobbit. The effort you made to game girls is coming back to haunt you. It's like winning the Oscar. You put a lot of effort into making a movie, but as soon as someone waves a small useless statue in your face and gives it to you, you want to cherish it and never lose it. Just try to let go.
I appreciate the suggestion, and I will do my best to develop a better inner game. Your metaphor makes a lot of sense too. Positive Affirmation: "I will let go."
Thanks bro!
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