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Day8. Using NLP in your game
Of all the things I'm posting in this thread, this is probably the one that turned out to be most important to me!
Ironically I was in a discussion today on the PUA chat with a guy who didn't understand the importance of NLP and were very closed minded to it.
NLP has helped me to improve my game by miles, it has also helped me to improve many other aspects of my life!
For those who are not familiar with NLP: NLP stands for Neuro Linguistic Programming and is basically a way to teach you how to control yours and others unconcious thinking!
Therefore NLP gives you advantages like - improving your selfconfidence, improve your persuasion ability, improve your ability to build rapport, improve your mood, improve your interactions etc etc.
Do not neglect the power of NLP, it can be very efficitent if it is used right!
If you are new at NLP and wish to learn about it there are a few good pointers I wish to give you!
1. Never try to learn NLP from a pick up artist! NLP in its origin is unrelated to pick up and should be learned that way and then you should attach the strings yourself and connect it to your personal pick up game.
2. Try to find NLP books in hardcopies(paperbacks) rather than ebooks, you need to focus and meditate a lot while you are processing it, something you simply don't do by your computer.
3. NLP takes time, you don't learn it over time, study a book that offers exercises and do all of them, be patient and don't stress the results! You can however get the basics down in about a month.
Some people think that NLP is some sneaky tactic that creepy guys use to fool women to sleep with them, this is all wrong, Like I said before, NLP helps you control your unconciousness, in a perfect world everyone would know NLP and all interactions would be so much better! I seriously wish that NLP was a mandatory class in highschool, things would just be better this way, The world would be a friendlier and a more understandable place.
Now since I have said that you shouldn't try to learn NLP from a PUA I'm not gonna give any instructions, but I will let you know how I use it!
First of all, I use NLP exercises everyday where I scan my thoughts and ty to find happy and sad memories that affect me positively or negatively, I can use these memories and turn them stronger or weaker and by doing this build up my mood and selfconfidence! This way it is easy to get ready to sarge!
When I interact with someone, I know how to read them, simple cues will help me to see which wordings I can use to better communicate with this person.
I know how to use my body language to communicate with this particular person, everything becomes very personal. You learn how to categorize each individual in his/her own box and you are able to communicate with everyone differently. This way all your interactions will become better.
Having mastered the communication then motivation and persuasion of others is just a small step ahead!
The way I use NLP in my pick up is to create a comfort zone with the girl, and withing minutes she will show me the same behavior as she would with a friend she had for ten years. I don't need to tell you how valuable this is!
Yet, in NLP you also learn all the opposites, so if you want to end the interaction for some reason you can just work the opposite way.
You are however not digging in any deep feelings, noone will ge hurt, the entire process is unconcious!
As a starter book of NLP I recommend "NLP: The New Technology of Achievement" edited (written) by Steve Andreas.
This book is great since it is not really written by one person, Andreas has mainly collected information from others into one great informative book, even for beginners! It costs only about 10bucks and is worth every penny. It is a good intro to this method.
If you have questions to me about NLP please feel free to post them in this thread and I will be happy to answers them. However, like I wrote here above, NLP should be learned on your own from a book in the privacy of your own comfort zone, so don't expect me to get deep into any particular exercises.
I'm also happy to answer any other questions you might have, but again please post them here rather than sending me a PM.
Great thread.
Beside the book you mention on NLP are there other more advanched books you can recommend??