There are hundreds of posts on getting into state, but what fascinates me is that the use of anchoring is not really mentioned on this forum. This is the most powerful form of state control yet no-one talks about it. I posted this here as the NLP section is dead, no-body reads it. Probably because most people havent looked into NLP as they see it as glorified psycho babble. Anchoring is one of the easiest and most powerful techniques to use in NLP as you can use it immediately!

I have recently started paying around with state control using anchoring...and I have officially anchored the feeling I get when I am on top of the world, that state you get into immediately after doing your first approach for the night. That natural high of energy, confidence and purpose.

The beauty of this is that you can strengthen the anchor every single night you go out.

Why are beginners not using this? It can be used in many areas of your life, job interviews, public speaking, any situation that requires confidence or a particular state to improve your performance.

This is not 'fake', you are not tricking yourself...you are simply bringing on a desired feeling by understanding the way that your emotional states are being triggered.

And the more you get yourself into this desired state, the more you are building on your natural/core confidence...as you are acting out and FEELING a certain way on a regular basis which slowly but surely reprograms your subconscious mind.

So i'd like to hear, why arent you using anchoring?

Because it seems too much of a hassle.


Tell me otherwise and I will try it out.

ha, you kidding me? too much of a hassle to acquire a skill that will change your life, all area's of it.

Get off your butt mate

I've been into pers development for a while now but it took me 4 days to anchor my first state. Eventually once you master it you can do it in a day. You will be the master of your emotional state. With all due respect, youre sounding lazy Try it out at least! Nothing ventured nothing gained right. To alot of guys learning how to become good with women is 'too much hassle', but you wouldnt want to be in their shoes would you.

I bet it's a nice thing to have, but it isn't a key part that makes you successfull with women. It's very gimmicky.

Nonetheless, I will try it out and see how things go.

I use everything at my disposal to get an edge in this game, including NLP, hypnosis, meditation, you name it. I have a self hypnosis MP3 I made that’s 30 minutes long with various affirmations & motivational bits I have collected since I started that specifically resonated with me. I also anchor pattern towards the end of it. It seems to work. I guess if you believe it works, it works. I think it helps so that’s all that really matters. Just feeling like I have done something that gives me a little extra edge helps too.

I have a couple of anchors. The one I use the most is making a fist and saying “power”. Even during the week anytime I laugh or feel really good I make a fist and try to say “power”. I usually give myself a fist squezze all through the night at the club especially once I really hit state to continue anchoring that emotion. I suggest making it a habit. Can’t hurt.

Meditation seems to have helped me a lot more though. You should check it out. Basically tought me how to control my breathing & anytime I start feeling ansey or get rattled, I’ve learned how to slow things down and relax myself.

I personally have the unstoppable confidence tapes made by Ross Jeffries. It works, but eventually it just fades away. I think that's my biggest point why not to use NLP. When you forget about it, it just fades away. It's the band-aid principle. it's fun for a while, but it's worthless in the long run.


I just anchored excitement.

a quick how-to:

1. Choose a specific state/emotion/feeling you want to anchor. Now choose an anchor you want to connect with this state/emotion/feeling. Be it slapping your thigh or a sound. Make sure it's unique.
2. Experience the state/emotion/feeling you want to anchor. Try thinking back to a moment wherein you had the same feeling, experience it all over. Say you wanted to anchor motivation, think about the last moment you felt REALLY motivated to do something.
3. Find the calibration point, this is the moment where you are feeling the state/emotion/feeling you want to anchor through your whole body, it's intense. When you've reached that point, you know what feeling you want to anchor.
4.Think again about that state. Feel the feeling again. Enter the feeling in it's calibration point. Now do something to anchor it, say something to anchor it, hear something to anchor it. Or a combination of the three.
5. Do something else. sing a song, w/e. then go through those steps again. repeat step 1-4 about 10 times. Do it faster if you want to, you're just making sure you remember the anchor.
6. Time to test it.
Do something completely else, then at a random point tap your fingers (or w/e you chose to fire your anchor), feel nothing? Feeling something but not strong enough? Try to find a better calibration point. Is it working? Awesome.


Few tips:
Make it fun, It's not a do or die exercise.
Try avoiding existing anchors, like for me, that's music.
Choose a state you're familiar with.

Where did you get this horribly incorrect info from?

Check this out...it is not a gimmick...it is simply a form of controlling your emotional state, end of story. You have anchored thousands/millions of different states without even knowing it already in your life. When you initially had AA, that alone is an anchor! The THOUGHT/VISUALIZATION of approaching a women was anchored to the feeling/state of fear. In the same way that drinking alcohol to many people triggers the craving for a cigarette. It's impossible for us to get into a particular emotional state without a trigger....else that emotional state would be meaningless wouldnt it.

Now, as for your theory on it 'just fading away'...heres the thing, if you do not regularly anchor a particular state then yes the intensity of the state will 'fade' away, HOWEVER this does not mean it does not help you in the long (far from it!). Every single time you use that trigger to get yourself into state, what happens? You think, speak and BEHAVE differently. Now lets say for example you have anchored an emotional state of ultra confidence, once you have triggered that state you will BEHAVE more confidently. Now the very fact that you are BEHAVING in a certain way (in this case confidently) will slowly but surely re-train your subconscious mind to that of this confident state. Why, because our very behavior forms and strengthens our core beliefs.

Try public speaking 100 times, first off you will probably crap yourself, but i guarantee that after your 100th speach you will look back and see how your BELIEFS on public speaking and the fear you once had is now completely changed/morphed. You didn't even need to visualize anything to attain these new beliefs, you just forced yourself to act out, which imprinted new beliefs.

So, every single time you get yourself into state using a trigger, you are telling your subconscious mind that this is natural, this is who I am and you are impriting new beliefs...and after some time you will not need a trigger...you will BE that state, it will be a core belief of yours. Remember we are exactly what our subconscious believes, simple as that. And its all about communicating and re-training the subconscious to believe you are this new person that you would like to become.

Two main things that lead to changing our belief system is visualization/imagination (as the subconscious cannot tell the different between a real and imagined experience), and then the actual behavior (actually ACTING OUT will strengthen these beliefs).

Fundamentally that's all there is to self change/development. Experiencing a state long enough (through visualization OR real experience) until the subconscious believes it is real, and it will eventually without doubt, believe it real (this is exactly how you formed your CURRENT beliefs on everything in life).

You will find the above concepts in modern NLP, as well as personal development concepts which go back 100 years.

Jav I think its great that you tried anchoring, now get brilliant at it! It will change your world.

PUADave, awesome..as you say use everything at your disposal.

Once you start understanding HOW these techniques work on the mind, it will make so much sense (if it doesn't already!).