I've been seeing this girl (my girlfriend) since the end of february. I mainly pursued her because 1. she was a virgin, and seen as being pure. 2. every guy said "there's no way she'll have sex with any guy." 3. she was cold to every guy that tried to talk to her 4. but seems like if I got past all of that she'd be a great girlfriend.

Well it turns out she's cold because she's so god damn insecure with herself, she's so closed minded, and judgmental and still lives with her parents at age 20. She goes to school full time and works two jobs for a total of 12 hours a week. Since she doesn't pay rent, food, gas or car, or clothes she gets to spend it on me.

Sex is okay, but I have to pretend to be needy and crave her attention, she wants me to call her all the time and act like I need her in my life. She is disappointed if when she comes over I don't greet her with a huge hug and kiss. She needs constant reassurance.

Now this other girl, I've known for 2 months we work together, I know big no no. Her and her friend come over to my house one night we play beer pong, tickle fight, jump in the pool she climbs into my bed with a tshirt on, we have sex, great sex. So good that always after I have sex with a girl and actually orgasm, I want nothing to do with the girl, I look down upon her actions. This girl, amazing! we ended up having sex til the sun came up.

I had no idea until I actually thought about the way she acts at work towards me, she would always ask me "hows your girlfriend" "let me get your number" she would text me to hang out, but I didn't really care to hang out with her and she always offers me help at work and i've never asked her to.

So I'm gaga over this girl. I see her at work the next day and she is smiling ear to ear, I'm pretty happy too, and people at work notice, and ask me "why is this girl being so flirtatious with you" I'm wanting to hang out with her again, so I text her, she said she had plans. I wait til she text me now. we talked on the phone, she insist i have to take her on a date now...

I don't even spend money on my girlfriend who buys me shit all the time, I don't know what she's thinking, but the sex was great, in fact it was the best I've ever had, I still didn't plan on taking her out to dinner, I told her to plan on friday and to wear something sexy.

The day before my girlfriend comes over, she wants to have sex, I can't even get off and the entire time I'm thinking about the other girl I work with.

So I go over to the girl's house I work with, but she meets me on the street because she lives with another co-worker and she doesn't want him knowing about us.

The girl I work with, I feel bad like she hasn't been treated to dinners and movies and a genuine romantic evening. So I think on my toes something romantic and cheap! We go out to eat, split an entree which was $8, walk around downtown then lay in the middle of a new subdivision being built and watch a meteor shower and talk about our lives growing up. And she goes to tell me she's seeing another guy too.

She then tells me how this guy she's seeing wants to make things official, and she doesn't. She then continues to tell me how she would make such a good girlfriend. I tell her to slow it down, we're going to have to go on at least 12 adventures before I can decide if your gf material. So I'm thinking "great I got this one in the bag, she'll be texting me, it's going to be easy" I drop her off, she kisses me goodnight and then text me "good night, thank you i had fun <3"

she text me the next day asking what i was up to, we exchanged a few text and then I asked her if she's free wedneday. I know girls love it if you make plans with them in the future as it shows your serious and have an interest, and care enough to make a plan. She doesn't write back, whatever it 12am she'll text me in the morning..she doesn't. All of today goes by no text. I have a policy no 2 text in a row, and I rarely work with her.

So I'm at loss of what to do..

a. I could call her, ask her if she wants to go out wednesday
b. wait for her to text me back
c. forget about her, i have a gf who genuinely loves me and would do anything for me
d. wait to run into her at work
e. realize she might still be on her period, and wants to have sex but doesn't want to because she's on the drip. (when we went out, she told me she wants to have sex, but she's on her period, and I didn't even bring it up 3 days ago was our 'little date')

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try maintaining both....

i'd say dumb your girlfriend since she's really not benefiting you in any special way.

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the girl from work and I end up going to the city together for the day, I get a bj over the golden gate bridge, I pull over and have fantastic sex at the first exit.

We drive home, she invites me in, in an indirect way. She says "my room is too nice" I say "whatever, goodnight" She says "i mean it's too nice for just one person"

Stupid me, got another phone call I answered and she went inside.

a few days later her myspace changes to "in a relationship"

I asked to hang out with her, hopefully to try and figure things out, she made excuses everytime.

I told her I can't be friends with her, but I had fun the moments we shared. She told me she just wants to be a good girlfriend, I told her it was too late for that, and I think the only reason she's with the guy is it's something secure and with me it's something out of the norm.

She didn't say yes or no, but sends me messages all the time before I go to sleep with hearts and shit.

I feel bad for my gf a little bit

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no reason to feel bad unless you're deliberately hiding it from her

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the one thing about the true pickup artist, is that he never lies, nor does he need to.

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i would skip her, and make her call me, but i wouldn't be able to make any assurance of my availability when she calls.

And layout a pickup artist is a professional actor and scammer.

Your referring to a naturally confident and attractive individual.

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well the girl from work is now loyal to her boyfriend, once they are official everything is off, I was amazed at her willpower. She invited me over, I come over we have a couple beers, I go to kiss her she pushes me away.

Tells me she doesn't want to lead me on. I tell her this sucks and I leave. I send her a text when i get home that just says "wow" she responds "im sorry"

I tell her "don't be, I won't be able to make anymore bad fincial decesions, i really liked you though, i just can't stand to see you if i can't be affectionate"

Left it at that, she didn't write back.

Now the girlfriend has gone insane, today was my birthday and got me an awesome gift, but says nothing to me, completely cold. I tell her to come by when she gets a chance, she comes over and just ask small talk questions, and starts doing my dirty dishes, and complaining how i'm a pig. then she apologizes she is afc of the girl world, I just can't seem to get rid of her. She comes over, I say 1 thing and she doesn't try to conversate or anything.

I'm out 2 girls, but got an awesome present, and had some amazing sex

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she sends me a text in the middle of the night telling me she feels like shit and can't sleep and has been tossing and turning and doesn't want me to hate her.

I haven't wrote her back.

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broke up with girlfriend day after my birthday, bahh im going to hell.

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false.

thats a player.

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... fake it till you make it?

i have heard statements from PUA's, who dont have good inner game, who base their game off of this theory "fake it till you make it" and they say that they never get over AA, and they feel as if they have to portray them selves in a certain way, and at times the need to keep a check on their body language..

thats why i think tyler durden is the man, ever since i watched to blue book decoded, i have dropped pick up lines, and scripted material, i just DGAF it all the way.. when i have a gf i don't sarge so i have been out of it for a little while. but i feel like a huge part of the community is still the old way, with a weak foundation

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"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
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ps. i enjoyed your story, sucks that the new chick got serious with the new bf, i got to say i cant respect you very much for what you did, the major part of having a wife, or a girfrend is commitment.. if you feel as if the person you are with isnt worth that commitment the you break up with her or divorce her, you dont just go hooking up with other people..

that puts you from being in an understandable situation, in the wrong...

you should of dumped the old gf before hooking up with the new chick, or atleast told her that you cheated on her... to be honest when i first clicked on this i thought your old gf was dating another guy, and i was going to tell you to gtfo of that relationship... but what evs.. hopefully you learned you lesson

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-Dre

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"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
-Harvey Fierstein

thats not an actor or scammer.

scammers and actors don't behave how they wish they were, they behave in a way that isn't them to get a result independant from themselves.

in a sense, the scammers never 'make it' but just 'fake it' forever.

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im saying the whole fake it till you make it, it in its self is flawed, yes you may get results but those results are based off of a lie.. some how that will subconciously fuck you if you try to pull away from being a scripted PUA to being a natural, if you disagrees with me further buy or download a copy of the blue book decoded watch it then come back to me

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-Dre

If your going to question me, you better have a theory behind your argument.

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
-Harvey Fierstein