Hey everyone, for those who have not yet had a chance to know me, names Impact, I've been in this community now for a good 2 and a half, moving up to three years, in which I have personally gone through all the ups and downs you could possibly imagine and personal growth to lead me where I am today.
For those of you who are new to the game, and I suppose new to life, let me emphasise that your end destination is never the initial destination you once had in mind. When I first entered this community, i was angry, very upset at my life and the paths it had went, I kept meeting women but i kept "loosing", them, I didn't understand what the deal was, with life with anything, I was so pushed off my center that any influence no matter what it was, with some glam would attract my attention. After some soul searching I discovered some old tapes by Ross J, which started me on this crusade to become the master pickup artist. I discovered all these interesting and colorful people, and I had the chance to meet Tyler himself when he was in Sydney and talk about the direction of my career, for at that time i was fairly well known in my little area, and thought it would be a interesting idea to work for various online dating companies. My first goal was to write a ebook sharing everything I had learned from all my experiences in field, as at that point i was living a life i thought had my foundations laid solid and my life in itself was now in place. However when I started writing my ebook, I noticed that I was referring allot to, routines, and lines, things you would do or say and somehow my subconscious wouldn't let it go. I decided to do a experiment then and figure out why my soul was so tormented even tho I had so much going on, why my body would prefer not to go out and meet women and have this great anxiety at the beginning of conversations. I knew how to deal with it, I knew how to compose my self and slide by, that's elementary piece of cake pickup stuff after all.. master the material then master yourself. I dropped the pen and stopped writing and just went out, after a series of months, i discovered something really different! I was always taught in the game, you have to do to get, or you have to be to get, but what i discovered is that I am so I get.
You see people, none of what you see in this forum I believe is valid to you at all, you are all here looking to get better with women, but its like the ugly duckling that turned into a swan, you are already special, you are already heading into the right direction, you will become what you want and how you want, you were designed this way, and all the answers are within you.
Some of this may sound like complete gibberish, but its like a master talking to his pupil, given enough time you'll understand it too, and not to put myself on any kind of pedestal in compared to you, we are equal human beings on the same level, but I have to use some type of medium to communicate with you across, by which you can comprehend me. Remember in the matrix, when Neo is looking for a answer, at the end he discovers that the answer was within him, and everything around him was a validation of that, he just couldn't see it.... and so you are here, looking, searching, asking questions about phone game, or reading books and memorizing lines when you are missing the point.
The answer is within you, It always has been and always will be, you don't need to attain anything, as simply wishing it strong enough will focus your mind on that objective and drive you, your 5 or 6 foot body to accomplish that task no matter what it takes, but you have to free yourself from everything, expectations, demands, lifestyle, free your mind, your body and your soul completely and let your body walk and shape itself in any form that It may. Go up to the woman, and know that you are.
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Deep shit, for some of you for sure, I know allot of you just wont get it, or will read it and hear it and miss it. You know I studied to be natural, I actually studied, to be confident, I broke down confidence into every little detail, to the way I walk, talk, smile! this was after i was great in field... and in the end it let me back to me!
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So what do you do when you first start? do you study the game? and become a great pickup artist, then when you get it learn to be a natural, then when your a natural learn to be yourself confidently?
no, just be you always. You know I see the sadness in these guy's eyes when they go out to social venues, i see it buried within their soul.. they have become masters actors and deceivers and have lost all notion of personal growth. Their life is based only in monetary, electrical or synthetic growth figures, which they have accomplished through their understanding of the digits and numbers created by our everyday psychological non evident matrix. Man do these so called men wish that they could be honest with a woman straight up, that they could look in her eyes and say "hey your beautiful, id like you right now". They are saddened by the millions of facade walls they see are there, carefully and meticulously perform a hilarious or astonishing to the outsiders mating dance to gently swerve around them, where as all the woman ever wanted is for him to acknowledge that there was no walls (There is no spoon).
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Unfortunately time is very limited for me right now, so I have to leave very soon, but I will leave you with this.. go out and meet women, and be yourself.
You notice how i don't talk about body language, voice tonality, attraction, connection or seduction, I just say be yourself.
If i was to say learn attraction, well what is attraction? banter? cocky lines? no no no, attraction is a woman validating her interest in you for being yourself.
Hows that?
so she sees a shy guy, she will say to her friends, hes really english rock its so hot!
as a example.
I don't talk about body language for that same example above, voice tonality, or seduction as they are natural courses that come by natural ways and understandings between two people.
I know this structured path is seductive, but skip it now you don't need it. On the other hand you don't need this alpha male rubbish either. Alpha males are parrots, that's how they become alpha. Birds that repeat words, and act out people in movies, and integrate that into themselves.
Pickup artists get good by their memory, developing and distributing, natural alpha males get good by being giant parrots, memory and integration through means of distribution.
Moral of the story, skip all of that nonsense, all the lines and bullshit, all you need to learn is the nature of attraction, connection and seduction.. the nature, not the lines and bullshit to accumulate it, but nature, even though I more or less spelled it out for you in this post.
You will need to go out and live a life which is clean and orderly, that entails meditating and cleaning your room, desk always, things of such nature, honesty, honesty, honesty, and holding your ground and your foothold in life (All of this is done simply to get more in touch with yourself, good sleep helps ALLOT to). You will need to understand the nature behind manhood and womanhood too. Go out to the library, look at some chick flicks with your female friends, figure this out, but use your resources, don't be spoon fed! your not learning anything aside from acting skills and how to be a professional deceiver with routines. And you learn nothing from natural alpha males who talk about the world as being a exchange of energy either. Trust me
All you require is foundations, learning the nature of everything quickly. Ground fundamentals, then you go out, look in yourself and see what you want, and present. Worst case scenario you don't accomplish your set task but you have to take direct responsibility, and look deeper in yourself to forward a more genuine person. With the basic knowledge of feminine nature, you will asses which woman gives you a credible response and which doesn't. Women just like you have problems in dating and life, they have many chemical processes that occur in their body, far more so then you, so never take anything personally. But I've just told you be yourself, when one knows himself nothing can be taken personally as he knows where he stands.
Go out and do,.. and no this is not the same as going out to experiment with lines or routines or going out to experiment different behavioral stances or vibes through actions, or delivery, this is going out and being yourself, and making that work.
I hope I can communicate more in this regards to you all in the future, fingers crossed this post goes out and there are some which think about it, and have interest in perhaps learning a little more.
Thank you
PS: Remember, its not about her its about you, and there is nothing you have to do, or nothing you have to be, you are, and shes interested in you, and how you are, you have just never presented a congruent you to her, and although you can present someone else through practice, who she may be interested in for a while, its best for her to like the you who is more then good enough for her. "Her" being any woman you see, full stop, and if you can trust me on that, then you have just saved yourself from a shitload of trouble. And when I mean present you to her, I don't mean presenting stories which you have memorized either, I mean presenting the shy, but unique or non shy or whatever you are, to her, just by going up, and being you (with the knowledge of fundamental nature of life you will navigate all the right directions, no hassle, no anxiety, no bullshit, no pain, no anything, just happiness, genuine happiness and being completely content).
CHAT
