Ever get that? You make a girl fall for you - hard - but you were only interested in the wonderful transient pleasure of draining your nuts in her vagina.

Now she's calling or texting or emailing all the time, with tonnes of questions about your life, your dreams, your goals, blatantly telling you how enamoured she is with you.

My mistake was that I continued being interesting and cocky and blah blah after I fucked her, instead of just pumping and dumping and cutting contact.

I don't feel comfortable with hurting a girl's feelings or being cold to her - I'd rather she picked up the laid-back, indifferent vibe and be cool with it.

Thoughts?

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The “Four Fs” are the four basic drives that animals (including humans) are evolutionarily adapted to be good at: fighting, fleeing, feeding, and reproduction.

For some reason I can make a lot of girls attracted to me, but never the ones I really, really, want. IE the 10s.

I just carry on but be bland and a different person, and attraction soon falls off. I think it's a bit harsh to just cut contact, that is not deff not leaving her better than you found her.

The reason your got yourself into this situation was because you were not honest about what you want.

Whenever I start seeing a girl and hanging out with her and occasionally fucking(this is the start) I tell a girl where this relationship is going and what I want, that I am not looking for anything serious etc you will be surprised at how many girls are comfortable with this, they are sexual creatures you have to learn to understand and most guys don't get this, ever wonder why they moan more during sex because they fucking enjoy it!

Or you can do what most people do and wait until one day that hot girl rolls over and says "baby or what ever pet name she has formed, where this relationship going?"

Think of you as a the women and this girl being the nice guy beta male in this situation who is strung a long and not given any idea that you are ready to leave at the drop of a hat.

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"That's how you become great, man. Hang your balls out there!"--Copy store clerk (Jerry Maguire)

needy girls =/= boner

You see, I have trouble with that. I hate the idea of becoming "bland" and stripping myself of all the attributes that are attractive - and her becoming deeply disappointed and completely demoting me.

In my own selfish way, I would prefer if she remained attracted, but kept her feelings to herself because she realises nothing more can come of it.

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The “Four Fs” are the four basic drives that animals (including humans) are evolutionarily adapted to be good at: fighting, fleeing, feeding, and reproduction.

I couldn't have been more obviously manwhoring with her. I fucked her friend, and told her about it.

If that's not a big enough hint, then I don't know what is.

She just couldn't help herself feeling attraction - despite my lack of reciprocation.

Your last point is excellent and thought provoking.

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The “Four Fs” are the four basic drives that animals (including humans) are evolutionarily adapted to be good at: fighting, fleeing, feeding, and reproduction.

I also hate the idea of becomnig bland - she might tell other people you're boring. I know what you mean too.

Best is to keep contact to a minimum, give out IODs, that way it's a lot more gentle than just severing contact.