This is a term my bro told me but is especially relevant to pickup, essentially it is sitting back and letting the problem sort itself. For our purposes it is for when you don't know what to say in set or whether you should call.
I am naturally a lazy person, hell I have laid in bed for 4 days just because I can. But have noticed a lot of people sweat the small things, they will worry about her not calling or if things go quiet.
The best way to think of interactions and relationships IMO is to imagine all the energy you have as a cup of water and all the relationships (especially if you are cultivating a few) as plants, now they will need watering but if you have watered them and they look healthy why invest more energy into them. Just sit back and let them tick over.
Now for a little bit on why this works in various situations, in terms of calling, if you call and chat lots you will seem needy and like you have nothing better to do (the opposite applies if you don't). In set if every time there is silence you freak out and start trying to fill it you will seem nervous and like you are seeking validation. So in set if it goes quiet let them sweat it, as guys we sit in silence in a room full of guys happily for hours anyway so why act differently.
But yar I think there may have been a thread like this a few weeks back but I think it is important that people start doing this.
When in doubt do nothing
CHAT
