Thanks for all the responses so far. I am taking all these into account.
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I've been wondering for a long time how the game changes the more attractive a girl gets, but specifically, my question is this:
Why does your game need to change just because a girl is very physically attractive?
I think Sexcellent answered this question well in his post above yours. The perspective that your game doesn't need to change certainly has benefits, though overall, I think it would be more intelligent to figure that the world of a very hot girl is light years away from the world of an average-looking girl. To use the same model for both would appear to be inefficient. (Although, perhaps paradoxically, I'm inclined to agree with the 'HB6 crowd' haha.)
One of the reasons for my asking this question is that an AFC friend of mine recently got into a relationship with a HB9 (probably the hottest girl I've met), by being normal around her. Normal doesn't mean purposely treating her bad in order to compensate for her hotness. It doesn't mean hide the fact that she is hot. It just means be normal. Anyway, he was telling me how she gets upset sometimes because so many guys just treat her bad and tease her, because they think everyone values her too much. So they try to do the opposite and end up shooting too long.
At the same time, I feel as if oftentimes, you feel like you're forced to do something different just because you know they're so hot. But this mentality inherently invokes inconfidence.
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I treat her like a guy friend, seems to work Confused I think its jsut because it makes it so easy to dodge shit tests and be confident
I really like this. Might give this a try. Would have to be careful though that you're doing it naturally, and not trying to put it on; that would again lead to long-term incongruence problems.
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I'd treat her like any other girl. So what if she gets hit on all the time? If I perceive her as no better than the HB6, then I will communicate that overtly and subtly. Most of the guys hit on her, but most of the guys value her too much.
"It's not what you say, its how you say it"
The thing I like about the way you said this, is that you communicate the fact that her value is no higher than HB6 'obertly and subtly'. Because I think there is a danger here of 'trying' to be normal around HB9. She knows she's hot, she knows you know she's hot, and she knows that everyone knows that you know that I know that he knows that she knows that her dog knows that she's hot. So 'trying' to be normal around her is a minefield. It has to come from your inner game and mindset, communicated overtly and subtly...nice.