weeks or even months after you casually meet a girl? Not sure if it's positive or negative. Anyone with more experience with this? I have had 3 recent encounters where it was a couple weeks or even a couple months. Basically these were all girls I dropped the ball on number closing that got pulled away by their friends. I saw them out again & went over to speak and was like hi Megan or what ever their names were. Basically they all looked kind of creeped out that I remembered their names was my impression. Perhaps they were just taken back though & in their head about not knowing my name. I just don't want to come off as a stalker or weird-0. What you guys think?

When I 1st started I exchange names with girls & would forget them immediatly which made it hard to number close, so I focused hard on remembering names. So now I am pretty good at it, especially if it's a girl im into. Had another enounter today even though I recalled her name, I didn't use it this time. I recalled something about our conversations which seemed to blow this minds chick even more seeing how it was 2 months ago. She was like how do you remember that. Now I wasn't prepared and said some shit like I don't know when I should have said because I have 100's of boring conversations in bars, some actually stick out. I actually think remembering part of the conversation though was a positive.

Anyway just curious what everyone thinks. DHV to remember them? Or DLV because they might think you must have fixated on them to much.

when they approach:
If they remember your name but you don't recall theirs then it's a definite DLV in their eyes.

when you approach:
If you don't recall her name you can just approach with a casual "hey, you look familiar" and most of the time she'll start explaining.


If they get mad at me for not remembering their names I'll blame them that they weren't fun enough or authentic.

I'm horrible with remembering names. So I usually connect their faces with an object or something and label it with her name.
Like when a girl has a face shaped like a balloon and that balloon is called Sarah. Try forgetting that one.

thats awesome that you guys have techniques to remember names. does anybody have any others?

i am HORRIBLE with names. often times i cant even repeat a girls name just a minute after she told me. it goes the same for guys. im so horrible with names. usually, if the chick is worth remembering ill type her name in my phone at the beginning of the encounter just in case i forget. this works out ok i guess, but its not the smoothest technique.

also when number closing if i have forgotten ill pull something off like, how do you spell your name right? or make her type it in.

but when these tricks dont work i find myself looking retarded and DLV the shit out of myself to the chick which sucks, specially after a long conversation

I think it really depends on how strongly you project your frame.

I met this girl working at an ice cream place once. Later she turned out to be in one of my classes a few months later. She sat next to me, and I said to her "you work at cold stone". She totally looked shocked and creeped out.

Her: How do you know that?
Me: Because I get ice cream there... (looking at her like she's an idiot)
Her: That's creepy that you remember me...
Me: That's sad that your memory sucks (with a cocky smile)
blah blah blah.

My frame was stronger and it worked out. Now we have an inside joke about stalking eachother.

So if she's surprised or creeped out you remember her name, neg her for being so wasted that she doesn't remember yours, or use it as a DHV and apologize for your fantastic memory.


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Always remember everyone's name. It's the polite thing to do. Read "How to Win Friends and Influence People," it's crucial. If you remember hers and she forgot yours, just bust on her for it. Why? Because it's rude. Not because it's a DHV or DLV.

When you're introduced to a bunch of people and they say their names, repeat their names back to them a couple times. Make sure you get it right. Then about 10 seconds later, mentally remind yourself of their names.

I'm excellent at remembering names. People forget mine all the time when I remember their's. It's never a big deal. People are always flattered and appreciative.

I work in a village shop and because lots of people order papers by there name its pretty annoying when they walk in and say papers please and im just like uuuh whats the name again?

I have noticed people i remember the names of seem to have way more comfort with me and things seem to progress with them. Also i have noticed some peoples names are easyer to remember and it is the more intresting ones i think this is because of anchoring(nlp term) where you link an emotion to there name.

imagine a really boring day and some guy comes in all cheerfull asks for a paper says his name then leaves its going to be more memorable than someone muttering it.

if your really having difficulty remembering names and its annoying you try some anchoring

p.s. i had to keep re asking this guy because of his silly cornish accent (arrdwee, can i have arrdwee's papers please? apperently he was saying r dawe)

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A good way to remember names in set is to remember left to right the first letter, that will usually suffice. I kinda picture the letter infront of them. As for over longer time unless it is worth it I don't bother and can usually dodge it in conversation.

If I have to remember a name give them a descriptive characteristic, Gillian glasses, Fat Franchesca, Lightweight laura etc etc

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Its best to remember their names during the conversation or the same night. Otherwise when you #close it looks kinda weird.

A tip: ask/get her name. After that shake hands and meanwhile say something like: "nice meeting you Sara" And focus on her name.

I have troubles remembering names of ppl who i haven't seen for some months. But I can remember other details of earlier conversations. Like others already said here: use those details to DHV yourself to her.

Its easier to remember the names of the rebels (the performers) than the silent ones (the observers).

Kudos to anyone who can remember a lot of peoples name in a given night. It's definitely a DHV if you can remember their names or recall how you met them after a certain period of time. Do not think of it as being creepy because it's not and it's pretty annoying when a girl thinks your creepy for being able to do that. Busting on them in a playful manner is great if they forget yours.