| One of the PUA's in my group recently a question on this (keeping conversation sexual, in a good and effective way) and I wrote a response that I thought could benefit more than the people on my board. Hope it helps.
-Use sexual innuendo; the crucial part is not dwelling on it or making excuses for it. It's more how you say it than actually doing it.
-Avoid social conditioning and thus ASD; one thing I now always do early on is convey to them that I like to be discrete. This opens them up to accept sexual relations.
-Use quotes/anecdotes. This is a Ross Jeffries SS invention. If you say, "my mate Jim was telling me the other day it's strange how some people have weird fetishes. Do you?" It is much more likely to be accepted than "do you have weird fetishes?"
-Use weasel phrases. A weasel phrases is like a 'softening' phrase just before an embedded command in NLP. E.g. not "feel really excited as i tell you this", but "you might feel really...." or "I don't know how excited you feel as... etc.
-When I discovered this my game just CLICKED. What you do is you stop, become aware of how you are speaking, then SLOW DOWN. SLOW THE FUCK DOWN. Slow down, and say it deeper, from your belly, with a richer tone.
-Along with the previous point, start kino pinging. Hit them on the arm etc. Kino is essential. Let me tell you a secret. AFC's think you can touch a girl if they are attracted to you. BUT, the secret, is that touching CAUSES ATTRACTION. (There is much psychological research to support this, look it up if you wish, I'm not here to convince you; take it or leave it).
-I recently developed (in-field, with normal conversations with hot girls) a beautiful trick that I call interference pinging, and this is a form of non-verbal fractionation. What you do is as you're talking, smiling, comfortably, you're rocking around (not too much as you have to match body language), then you enter their field of space (i.e. go close to them). Calibrate it so you lean in and they don't really notice; it's natural. Then lean back out again. Next time go further, because you're fractionating. It makes convo dynamic and them much more attracted and attentive towards you. This allows you to get close, allows them to accept your intimacy, and lets you calibrate for further escalation.
-Smell their hair/perfume!
-Pace & lead to build rapport, then break rapport! A beautiful example of this which I nicked from Biggi is that you speak to a girl, or they’re speaking, then you just say ‘shut-UP jenny!’ in a playful but serious/mocking tone. It’s mean, but you can just watch their gasp and attraction soar through the sky. It’s awesome. Don’t be a doormat. Call them out on their shit.
-When it's time, SOI them. This is the awesomest way; HB is talking....you say, "hold on a sec, stop...(then look over)...your ass is looking sexy today." THEN CARRY ON AS NORMAL. IF you dwell you lose. I know you guys like your mystery method/indirect approach but sometimes direct just cuts through the shit.
-TEASE THEM. Tease tease tease tease. TEASE!!!!!!!
-Get them to imagine and feel sexual sensations. Remember, change their mood not their mind. Get em wet and they'll do anything. This is why girls will always cheat on their bf's/husbands.It’s all about capturing and leading their imagination. Because this bypasses their critical faculty and activates the creative, imaginative right brain, which allows your messages to go straight to their subconscious where it is accepted and responded to, without their bitch/social conditioning flavour giving it a bad taste.
-LEAD, DOMINATE & COMMAND. Remember, girls derive sexual pleasure from putting up barriers and being overwhelmed. When you lead, they find it attractive. Use commands like "hey hey hey, stop a second, listen..." and, "come over here (motion & smile)". Don't ask questions, just dominate and command.
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