Some people will avoid getting in tune with their emotions and investing within a person. Lately, it's been me.

I'm noticing that my game has slumped a bit as I harness a wall between every girl I'll meet. Well, more than a bit. I've always believed that how you feel inside yourself is projected outwards, and now that I have hardcore evidence that it does impact how others interpret your actions, I find it essential for us all to be in tune with our emotions.

I say the same shit, I do the same shit, but my heart isn't into it, and unless the girl is retardedly drunk, boner-hungry, or think I'm some sort of demi-god half asian, the results will be lack luster and end after 5 minutes of talking.

Women also get boner-hungry for guys that can express how they feel, and influencing their own emotions by what they say. This isn't necessarily the end-all rule to things, I mean try this in a club and you'll get a weird stare, but it is essential when getting to know a girl. Get in tune with yourself, and act upon your emotions, of course that is assuming your emotions are a result of a more mature level of interpretation so you don't go around chain-sawing the girls that screwed you over. And assuming you won't act like a chode-crystal while expressing it i.e. a solid frame of your belief systems. Otherwise, you're well on your way to being a social robot like myself.

_________________
I'm addicted to facing my fears.

funny you mention this, check this out it might help you out

talking-about-emotions-vt42892.html

_________________
-Dre

If your going to question me, you better have a theory behind your argument.

"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
-Harvey Fierstein

First of all, what's so wrong with being a social robot? Everybody . . . nearly everybody I meet in the World is a damn broken record player. Their lives are canned routines and they still somehow make it work and socialize quite well with one another. The same lines, eat the same food, walk the same way, wake up, sleep, fuck, repeat. Ever listen in on conversations? God damn it . . .

"Yes, yes, you're pretty."
"Yes, yes, you're pretty tood . . ."
(Over, over, over, over again)

"You're rich."
"You're rich too . . ."
(Over, over, over, over again)

"You're cool."
"You're cool too . . ."
(Over, over, over, over again)

Guys repeat this crap over, over, and over again and still manage to date, marry, and live in that blissful ignorance their entire lives. The only difference I can see in what you wrote is that you seemed to have "caught" yourself. You've caught yourself living out your plastic TIVO style and you're not satisfied with it.

In my opinion, those girls aren't exactly disappointed with your "robot style".(Most people of the World are robots anyways) What they're able to see is your "dissatisfaction" with what ever it is that you're doing. You could probably walk in and make it a point to ONLY spout cliche's the entire night and as long as you're having a ball, people will just nod in approval.

Sure, you can try shifting you're style and continue to find your "inner-self" or whatever it is that you think might be your inner self . . .

But for now . . . really . . . I just think that there is really nothing so wrong with being a "social robot". Can 99.999999% of the World be so wrong?

Beschatten! I agree with you man! I just came back from my inner journey trying to understand who I am myself. I completely agree with your opinion on social robots.

Kasabi... I do not agree, most people react, true. But most people are not aware of it, not intentional.

I think that without emotions we are lost, very lost. PU teaches us a pattern that works for attraction etc. This does not mean that we just follow this blindly, we also need to feel, to live, to take care of ourselves, to enjoy life. I love to live and I hate to survive.

Ezo

I love living and I hate just surviving.

There...

I wasn't directing it towards what you say, but letting yourself get involved using your emotion. Limiting your interactions with a woman to only sex because it is the programmed PUA go-abouts isn't really going to make you happy Kasabi.

Try this exercise, listen to this song( http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=MrIyotZmXgA ), and while its playing write down all the emotions it makes you feel, and all the emotions it conveys to you. This is how your conversation with a girl should be.

_________________
I'm addicted to facing my fears.

It seems I mis-wrote my initial reply.

1. Identify. (That you're a social robot. EVERYBODY in the World is one)
2. Accept. (Really not a big deal . . This is the message that I really wanted to convey in my initial reply. It's the fear of accepting that you have no individuality whatsoever that keeps most people herded up like some ranch animal. Once you accept this fact, you can change . . . but if you can't . . . so what? How many individuals do you really know in this World? Can you even name one?)
3. Set your personal strategy to change (if you want to)

How many times have you met girls and they go, "Oh, I'm totally free-spirited. I'm a free thinker, blah, blah, blah . . . ." And they're wearing what their friends wear. Speak the way their friends speak. Do what their friends do. She could disappear from the face of the Earth and you could just date one of her friends. You wouldn't miss a thing.

Your initial post is interesting to me because you have identified and accepted AND you're looking to change. These are the steps. . .

Most guys/girls just skip the steps and just blurt, "I'm free! I'm emotional! I'm an individual! I'm in tune with my emotions!" Really? . . . Emotional like you can sing your emotions to a ballad? Go ahead and offer your song exercise to a group of people. ALL WILL WRITE WHAT AMOUNTS TO THE SAME THING EVERY TIME. They're so lost, they don't even know how to find their own voice.

This in fact is why the game is so easy. Once you identify anyone's little formula, believe me, it's a little, little, little formula . . . you can run them around like little mice in a maze. This is in fact what gets boring for me. I meet the same person, over, over, over, and over again . . . they just offer different shells. Every once in a while however, you meet someone . . . and you know . . . both know . . . and it's as if you don't even have to communicate verbally . . . You just know that there is somebody truly unique standing in front of you. Once every 5 years maybe . . .

Beschatten, this is great advice. I see a lot talk on these boards about the "alpha male", but it takes a real man to cry when sad, laugh when happy and yell when angry. Being in touch with these emotions will make you more in touch with the world around you.

Sure, plenty of social robots are very successful, but that doesn't mean you have to be one to succeed. You have to look at the greater goals: being happy and healthy in life in general.