Ok well i've been with my gf for 5 weeks or so, things were good to start with but just lately last 2 weeks she hasnt made an effort to see me, in fact i havent seen her for two weeks but i've made the effort to arrange to meet with her, i've made so much effort i almost feel AFC, i.e. constantly letting me down and its starting to become annoying, i dont know why shes doing it. She keeps giving me the signals she cares and loves me but i just dont know :-/, anyway was supposed to see her yday and i didnt because she let me down again, so i said to myself i'd give her one last chance and hope this relationship would work.. well tonight i went to a house party, havent heard from her all day or last night when she said to me "You make me feel so bad" (for letting me down) and i was gaming this HB8/9 whatever... and basically it got to the point where i was making out with her, everyone saw and they all know i've got a gf, Im really unsure what to do now, there is a possibility that she may find out due to people speaking, but do i tell her or just leave it? and if i do tell her what do i say? god im so confused, i want to try make this work but if she wants to finish it its no big deal :-/. I've had a little bit to drink but that does not make a difference... gimmie some sugguestions guys, its 12 am here now, when do i text her? in the morning?

Sorry if i've posted in the wrong section but this is a general question and i just need some advice, i've never been in this situation before, btw im 17 and shes 16...

Thanks guys

does she know you've cheated on her?

If not, good. But tell her that you'd like her to put effort in this relationship aswell. Communication=everything in a relationship.


If she does know then mercy is in her hands. All you could possibly do is apologize and let her make her own choices.


But if things don't go better then would you really want to waste your time on a girl that's so selfish that she isn't willing to put effort in you? I think not.

....and then you woke up with stained sheets its ok man no one will consider your wet dream cheating

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Just tell her the situation dude. If it works it works, if not it doesn't. And making out isn't that much of a big deal when your relationship with the girl who you're 'cheating' on has lasted all of 6 weeks.

Hate to say it but it sounds like she's unsure about the relationship anyway. If you really want it to work, I would DHL something hardcore to her. Confront her about why she hasn't been keeping in contact with you pretty much immediatly after DHL, thus disqulifying any thoughts she might have about ending it. She'll make up some shit or give you a proper reason OR she may bring up you cheating on her at that party. When you're in this position, you could argue that you were drunk and lonley because you were not reciving any affection from your her.
Hope this helps!

Yeahh Reo, I wasnt sure whether to class your Mum as a HB8/9 :-/ I mean shes so good in the bedroom that it makes me have them wet dreams I want the nightmares to stop. Thanks for being there for me though

Yeah thanks for you 'mature' input guys, I'll take it as it comes really and your right about the whole situation with her. If it works it works if it dont it dont.

It's all good man. She deserved it for not putting effort in the relationship.

I wish I had done the same when girls would leave me hanging like an AFC when they would probably me meeting new guys.

I finished with her earlier, I saw her just out of the blue and we got talking and decided it was best for both of us... I feel like I've lost all that cocky swagger I had and all my confidence I had before I was with her :-/.

Well time to move on NEXT!

Honestly it seems like you've done the right thing. If it was me in that situation I would have told her the truth, that's usually the best decision.

I would have told her I felt she wasn't committing enough, and that i'd kissed a girl, and the reasons why. And then left it up to her to make a decision on where she wanted things to go. But also be clear on where I wanted things to go as well.


Essentially state your position, listen to and understand her position and then come to a mutual decision that's in both of your best interests.

Sounds like that's exactly what you did. So kudo's.

Good luck, and bring on the next one

Wolfus.

Dude....everybody gets worked up about this imaginary lines of commitment when in reality (your situation) the emotional connection isnt really there anymore....It sounds like you were on the outs anyway....

By blowing you off, she is forcing your hand....Ask yourself this, if she was there or at the very least had been giving you the time and attnetion you deserve would this have happened.??? I would like to think you answered no...

You're pretty young (so the gf/bf thing in your world is a bit more signinficant) but the older you get the more you realize is that unless you or someone else has a ring on their finger....Its pretty much game on

Dont get me wrong, if you make a commitment to someone, you should do your best to keep it.....But if one side is not holding their end up in the bargin....then that commitment is null and void IMO

Onmly thing wrong you;ve done IMO, is not break up w/ that girl sooner....Now get to it and go find that HB8 from that party!

Your right! Those where my exact words, if she had been with me at some point this week, would this have happened? URM NO haha but yeah your right, just maturity I guess, it all comes with time.

Thanks for your input everyone

There we go