I'm 30, educated and pretty good with girls. I can go to the club at anytime and get numbers and dates without a problem...but im digging this girl at work.
Cute girl, very well educated, we work the same job... she may have a bf but thats pretty much nothing i know her to be into(, and seems they dont do very much together instead of him taking pics of her and going out for chinese where she takes pics of both their plates but never him. lol
Worked with her for a year, in the last couple months have been hanging out with her lots both at work and at lunch... and we have recently also spoken about hanging outside of work. Shes always coming to me and we do a lot of teasing, banter, flirting and a few people have suggested we are cute together to both our faces.... to which i laughed off that it wouldnt work because we laugh to much and would be not productive because of it... said it as both a disqualification and because its work so i would prefer people to not know if something does happen...discreet is good and badass!
Anyway, in the last couple months i became interested and have started flirting with her. She responderd back the same but in the last 2-3 weeks she has became more receptive and always coming to me and throwing her wit right back at me which i find so damn hot.... im purposely taking things slow and careful because it is work, its a very good job, i really love my job but also there is no interpersonal policy as ive seen married/dating people work together.
3 weeks ago we were working on a project together and both have flirted heavily that day, and in the midst of conversation as if by accident she said she has a bf but she said it in a very unsure way. I brushed it off as it didn't bother at all and now she has not mentioned it ever since. That day though, she was texting me a lot asking if i got home safe and about possibly seeing a movie together.
I checked out her social media profile, she has 0 pics with him and it seems he's tagged into a few pics that he took of her...poor guy lol
Then went into his social media and no intention to be mean, but the dude is a scrawny scared looking nerd, which is interesting because she has told me multiple times that if guys are scared or pretty much anyone with his description, they are not alpha....unless she thinks she can work on him or something.
Last week she stood there at my desk giving me chocolate and we were having a laugh and she got all awkward and said kind of mumbling to herself "you are a very dominant guy and I am pretty dominant myself...I think someone more passive is good for me, right? To which I responded, "what the hell are you blabbing about this time and started laughing. She started laughing and then we went to lunch together.
Also, there are days shes always around me and other days where shes not. Sometimes I also make an effort to go see her but usually its her always hanging around me.
Are these things with the guy and the inconsistencies shit tests or something? I feel like she is doing push/pull technique on me.
Last week we were suppose to go out together outside of work, she confirmed with me the night before and telling me how she excited she is about it and the day of she cancelled stating shes sick and did not show up to work either.
Today I made a lot of touching moves on various obviously non sexual parts of her body - hand, kneck, arm, stomach, back..(keep in mind this is work so I cannot go all out as I would elsewhere) She responded positively to them and literally could not keep away from me all day long to the point I had to start avoiding her a bit to get my shit done haha
What should I do? Should I mention this bf to her and find out more and hit her with the boyfriend destroyer stuff or should i pretend this quasi-boyfriend doesnt exist and just take her out and make a move on her then or should I ghost her for a week or two to see if she will chase me and see if something pans out.