Ever since I was a kid I was brought up in the church and being in the south i was pretty much surrounded by extreme Christians telling me i shouldn't have sex until marriage.

Now here's where the problem is, a couple times before i got into pickup i was offered and I declined. Now that i got into pickup the amount of offers has skyrocketed, and I actually kind of want to do it.

I'm not really that big of a Christian anymore but i still have that feeling like i should at least wait until someone special comes along, but nothing seems to push me over the edge, even a HB9 (no such thing as a 10).

Asking the PUA community -- what should I do?

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Honest man dont make your first time with a random because after you will prob feel bad about it....from the sounds of things you come from a good family with high moral standards? and you treat women with alot of respect.....

The first time I had sex was amazing! and I will tell you why atleast in my experience. I met a girl who I picked up when I just got into the whole PUA thing.....well we went to the bars a couple times and got to know each other and then one night after the bar she came back to my place and I think we both though we wer going to have sex....she was cuddled up to me and we had beed making out....well things started to get heated and then I pulled of her and said "you know what I think we should stop here for now" I told her I wanted to just hang out with her and wanted to take it slow....we then spent the whole night form like 12 til 7 in the morning sitting ther talking and geting to know each other....well the next night we hung out agian and thats when it happend. She came over, we hung out and one thing led to another and honestly I have no regrets and she didint eather! it was not weird at all and I know had we rushed it I prob never would have talked to her agian.

Trust man after your first time it doesnt matter so much but for your first time make it mean somthing....get to know a girl first because when it happens you dont feel nerves and its fun!

If ther is one tip I can give you when you are having sex it is to just relax and have fun! dont think about looking or sounding dumb just have a good time! Also be dominant....I dont mean grab her and hit her haha but take control, women like confidence! so show her your a man and tell her when you want to change it up....like say hey got on top, or say hey lets try doggy style.

It sounds wierd but trust me haha

im 17, everytime i've fucked its been a one night stand, i guess it was fun and exiting and it always makes for a good story, but i'd imagine it to be better with some1 u care about, and if its with a grl friend u get sex on the regular, unless u got sick pua skills and wana put in work every time u wana fuck

and BTW the 1st few times u fuck sometimes ur so exited ur finally gana do it u can keep it up, might was well get this out with a few random HB's so u can thoroughly fuck the one u care about with out embarassing urself the 1st time

I`m 16, have had my current girlfriend for 3 months and we started sex 1 month into the relationship. Right now i have no regrets and neither does she, because we are close.

Find a girl who you don't feel the need to rank as a HB9 or whatever, find a girl who you feel close to and can see a true beauty in. If there is alot of comfort between the two of you (which there will if you are close) then not being that great the first time will not matter, it will be more about advancing your relationship and becoming closer as opposed to "OMG getting laiiiiid".

Does the Bible ever say anything about pre-marital sex? It's pretty clear when it says women should obey their husbands but people today conveniently ignore that. So maybe people are just imposing their own beliefs on others under the guise of religion? Wouldn't be the first time that's happened...

I'm 16, religious, and a virgin.

I got into a sex situation once, just once. I freaked and totally ruined my relationship with the girl. But then I got out and met new, wonderful people.

Sex is just another pleasure. Some people have a higher desire for it than others. All I can say is, whatever floats your boat man. You can always masturbate but if that isn't enough go for it. I feel like I have surpassed the concept that sex is a necessity or maybe my hormones haven't fully kicked in. Who knows... what I'm trying to say is: Feel proud of being a virgin but don't feel ashamed if you do end up having sex.

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i have the same dilemma as you. i'm not very religious so it's not religion that's holding me back. like you said, i want to do it with someone special. but then i just wonder "what if the girl i'm losing my virginity to has had sex before?" that wouldn't be cool. i'm 16 and i'm still trying to figure out whether i should wait or just do it now haha

Yeah thats kinda how I feel cause the girls that have offered it to me aren't exactly girls that im 'in like' with ahha.

I just want my first time to be with someone i really like, other than that i couldn't give a fuck. Like right now there's only two girls I would lose it to and one lives in another state so thats not gonna happen ahha

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