Hey guys charge here
I offer a lot of my two cents here and I really need you guys to give me solid opinions.

About four years ago I stumbled into my S.A.T test classroom and saw the most stunning lady Ive seen in my 20 years of existence. I ran what little game I had on her and while walking out of the class I pointed her out to my best friend and said Im going to date that girl for a long time man. He thought it was a joke but boy it was far froma joke. I wound up with the girl for 3 1/2 years.

What I didnt mention to my friend or know at the time is not only was I going to date this girl for four years but she was going to break my heart soul and ambitions numberous times. Even through the bad though the relationship was amazing, we were the strongest couple Ive ever known.

While dating for 3 1/2 years she called me one day last August and just broke up with me out of no where. I was fucking crushed. I was numb for about 2 months then I started to learn about the game. The game gave me something to look foward to. Once I got semi skilled in picking up women I was actually having fun.

Then out of the blue my X contacted me. We realized we still loved eachother and we needed to be togather. We dated again until this march when we both decided to break up again. She lived an hour away and we both had busy lives and we didnt want to be tied down in our different cities. We didnt speak for another two months.

Which brings us to the present time, this week. She calls me out of the blue and comes over when I got home from a concert. We end up hooking up and left me confused all day monday. We talk about it monday night and we both game to a conclusion. Let me try to generalize it. We are both 20. We want to have fun and not be tied down. Yet we still think about eachother everytime we wake up and love/care about eachother on a very deep level. We compare the "relationships" we are having to the realtionship we had and its never as good. We dont want to loose eachother. Yet we dont want to get angry at eachother if we hear we made out with someone else. We want to be able to go out with our circle of friends with no limitations.

Yes this sounds like a ordinary open relationships. But really it isnt. Usually open relationships are with someone who you are just attracted to sexually. This is the flip side its a open relationship were we both have connections emotionaly.

All of this is running through my head constantly. Im 20 and I dont know what i want. I do know one thing is that I do not want to be hurt but I also dont want to loose her.

Theres so many questions I have about this I could just ask opinions and opinions all day. Id really appreciate it if you guys could examine this and tell me what you think. Also could you give me pointers on how to do this without getting crushed again. What approach should I take this with my game abilities?

Also she said she is not having sex with anyone anymore, including me. I dont know how hard she is going to stick to these guns. Personally Id be bumbed out if we were not haivng sex though. This could just be a test in wich im great at destroying. We will see.

Marry her....

If you do not want to do that,

MOVE THE FUCK ON.....

It will always be up and down. Continually getting your heart broken. It is getting the best of you now.
Now, by moving on, I do not mean you cannot see her and screw, just realize that you will not be marrying her and need to keep that in your frame.

Overall though, I still suggest to move on...... You are only 20 and you will change as a person in the next ten years. So will she. You may not like what she becomes and there is a really good chance she will get fat.

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Recommended reading list.

Double Your Dating by DD
(This will work on your inner game)

http://www.freewebs.com/xfman/
(This will work on your outer game)

Here is my advice

Firstly you need to ask yourself some questions and to seriosly think about them , and belive me whatever I or Valence say , you are deciding so you must realy think this through

1.Is she the person you will hava most fun (as a GF) , or u can fun someone with who you can have more fun , and to be better looking
2.Do you want to fuck other people , i mean are you inloved in her , or you just like her same as your mother,friend or something you are very found of , I mean you said I love her but I don't want to be tied down , you also love your mother,friend your dog but you don't make a big fuss of it.
3.What will be better for you to try it once again with her or to have a open ralationship , think about it ,in which situation would you feel better , what situation will save you from that pain of being hurt.

There is not a good advice on this this is realy fucked up situation , so think realy good about it , you either try it with her or you don't .
And at the end you can allways try swinging thing together



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I have a very similar situation with my ex, we saw eachother for a while and it was just amazing, but it got to the point where it became clear to us that the relationship was something special. (btw I am 20 too). At this point I think she felt that by continuing to see me she was missing out on a lot of life experience with other guys. Obviously I wasn't too happy about this. But I knew that if I wanted our relationship to really last then it was better to let her go now rather than have her feel bitter towards me later. I think the point is she wants to see there is nothing better out there, and have the experiences other girls are having before finding mr. right. And at the end of the day my attitude was, if she meets someone better then me and her wouldn't have lasted anyway, if she doesn't then we have a whole lot of time together ahead of us so I won't worry about sharing for now! We decided to go on a break, and just keep in touch now and then. This has worked so far and I believe we did the right thing. I would rather have this than have her getting bitter and curious and probably cheating on me when we are older. Having said all the above it hurts like nothing else I know to think of her with other guys, and I totally lost myself for a while. Good luck man, this is the hard side of the game.

Thanks so much for your guys responses. Ive taken them seriously

I have another question

Do I have the right to get mad at how shes promiscuous? Like is it right to think shes a shitty person because she might have a few one night stands or let a guy treat her like an object? Or is this just something most girls do?