| I have been doing martial arts(RusssianMartialArts) to be exact for a couple years now. I love it, it teaches you to be yourself and go with the flow. It's an absolutely devasting art.
What does this have to with PUA? Well recently I am having alot of inner game struggle. Like is this something I really want to do, pick up girls I mean wtf? Can I get laid, no problem, i've seduce alot of girls. But, by projecting something that isn't really their. I am myself, but just the self I want other people to see. It doesnt feel natural or right.
The I had an ephipany when watching the 40 year old virgin. Where he says I respect women too much so I dont bother them.
And I realized WTF, im an awesome dude, I SHOULD bother people and introduce myself to them, because I have alot to offer. And hey if you dont want to get to know me, thats your problem not mine.
Still though, I hadn't exactly figured out what to do sometimes when im nervous or angry, or how to react.
MAJOR EPHINPANY, I realized, if this is the feeling I am having at this moment. Then pause, and try to think of all the moments in your life where you felt like this, and use that feeling to push threw.
Samex your an idiot what are you talking about???
You finally get the balls to go talk to that girl, everything is going ok hahaha, blah blah, but for some reason, it's not right, you dont feel natural, your nervous inside and your trying to do everything in your power from her seeing that. You might be saying im not nervous, but your BODY IS SCREAMING it.
What do you do? Think of every moment in your life that made you nervous, that time you farted in grade 3 class and everyone heard it, the time you slept over a friends house and pissed yourself, allow all these nervous feelings to come out, and next thing you know, you will feel just fine.
Why? Because you are accepting what you have, and you are being true to yourself, rather then try to hide it and supress. This is an unbelievable exercise that I highly recommend.
As I now apply this to my martial art, my skills have gone through the roof, much more agile and better now, because I stopped wasting energy on things I can't change, and focused more on what I can do.
Now this kinda sucks because I have this tool, and i havent gone out much, just really busy with work, and it is working really great, people around are alot more comfortable with me, because I am now comfortable with my self, even if i am nervous lol.
If you ever read a book called POWER OF NOW, or A NEW Earth, this is what he means by accpeting this moment, and living in the moment. MAN is it beatiful...
btw those nervous moments were true...
samex
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