Another comment from the old and wise (wiseguy) Ezo...

This is another realization directed at people who are not really newbies but still struggling PUAs or rAFCs.

Do not let the game take over your life. This may go against things I have posted before (at a first glance) but it is important to know who controls who. Let me explain.

First I would like to stress that there are different stages of the game and that different people stop at different levels.

First level, people who have never heard of the game.

Second level, people who have read the game or seen Mystery on TV.

Third level, people who have tried some routines, crashed and burned, and then decided that it was too hard for them.

Forth level, people who stick with it, learn a few routines and improve their chances with women. But still are at the level of repeating canned material. This post is directed at YOU guys!

Fifth level, Pick Up Artists. People who get it, people who understand the structure and are not blinded by the routines.

Sixth level, MPUAs. People like Mystery and Style. People who eat sleep and breathe the game. People who do this for a living.

Starting where the interesting thing is... Most people who come to the forth level do so because they are dedicated to get this part of their life fixed. People who admire MPUAs like Mystery and do anything to be like them. Well guys, herein lies the danger.
I would say that many of us have been through this stage, or are in it. The PUA lifestyle starts paying off and you feel like a million dollars every time you close. It is rewarding, your brain starts secreting the little substances used to reward you for a job well done. You have passed through the difficult part when you had to keep at it despite the pain. Now it is time for you to get what you paid for... Right? Anybody recognize themselves?
In the initial stage people try to eat sleep and breathe the game. People try to learn anything the the MPUAs tell you. Mystery can do this because this is his reality. Does this mean that it has to be your reality? NO! Your reality is your own and in it, you are the master.
A few of us are destined (if you believe in that) to be a PUA for life and they should go for it!
However, the rest of us are normal guys. We have learned skills that enables us to meet women. Does this mean that we should let PU be the ONLY part of our lives? Again, NO!

PU is supposed to ENRICH your life, not to RULE it.

A quick scan through the forum reveals that the things people here are most afraid of are: ONEitis, being an AFC and/or NOT being the stereotypical PUA.
Sentences like "I know this was too AFC but it worked" or "Help me get out of this ONEitis" (Yes I know I have been there and occationaly go there myself still.) show that people are afraid of not living up to the expectations of the PUA community.

Again, there is nothing wrong with not going for the title of the worlds best PUA. There is no shame in leaving the game for a girl. It is nothing wrong with occasionaly telling a girl that you are sorry if you have screwed up. People, please stop trying to make Mystery (or anybody) an icon, the ideal man, the role model.
We are all individuals and noone will think less of you if you fall for a girl or act AFC once in a while.

Do not let the PUA ideals rule your life. Do not let the game define your life. Do not judge your own value by the "code" of the PUA community. Get the skillset but remain yourselves...

Me, I love the game, I do everything I can to understand more and more of the social interactions leading to attraction between man and woman. But I do this as a hobby. I also improve my life in other areas, career, friends etc. And if I during my journey to MPUAhood find a girl that is worth spending a lifetime with, without hesitation I would marry her on the spot.

Love

Ezo

AMEN!
No kidding!!!!
VERY TRUE
Excellent Post Ezo! You continue to be one of my favorites to monitor on the forum as I like your field reports. This is a good post. I don't think that people can be reminded enough not to let this stuff rule your lives.

I went through a period of writing many many field reports and lay reports and generally doing well with all this stuff. It clicks for me and I understand it well. I am able to teach others a little bit of what I know and help them. This was becoming a very huge part of my life. However, when I met a great girl who is now my girlfriend I put it all away for her.

She is interested in the community and supports my "hobby" so I continue to be here and help others. You can not let this stuff rule your life. There are things more important and being an AFC or developing One Itis.

Most of us get in the game to have the ability to get that one special girl when she comes along. There is nothing wrong with leaving the art for that one special girl.

Peace & Points to You!

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Been around the world twice, Talked to everyone once...

Thanks Jsmooth!

Glad that the more experienced people here (you for instance) support this. I think many newbies can save themselves countless weeks by reading this...

Haha, why would anyone let a hobby consume them?

It's when you lose yourself, and track of your goals, that you truly give your life to sarging.

Suddenly you're addicted to the rush of approaching a new set.

You see yourself thinking just that, every group you see is a set and must be dealt with accordingly..

That's when you realize you've lost yourself.

When all you can think about is your next set, your next close, you have lost your reasons behind learning this stuff in the first place.

You become a junkie, always looking for that next fix.

Now, if I were you, which I am not, I would most awesomely recommend that you, each and every one of you, take a moment to yourself, now, and think about your reasons for learning this in the first place.

Has it given you your power back? Have you achieved your goals? Do you feel like you're a better person for it, or just... a different person?

When you have evaluated your reasons for being here, and have your full resolve, I will be interested in hearing what you have to say.

When you have achieved this, post back on here.


-Rex Parliament, Bringer of Life

Very true, but it all seems quite philosophical. I raise a relevant question that may bring this thread to a more concrete level.

How many hours per week do any of you estimate you spend on PUA related stuff, that includes actively picking up, reading PUA articles, managing relationships etc?

Without exaggeration, this stuff is like crack, one really has to be careful to not get sucked in and neglect old friendships, career and the good things that already exist in one s life. I keep hearing about people bragging of having 5 MLTR at the same time. that must be exhausting and not to mention the amount of time spent, how is it possible to maintain a professional life parallel to that?

What if the reason, thing, person, whatever it was that got you into the game in the first place no longer exists? Then how does one bring himself back to the roots?

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"It is the proper combination of cool plus amazing that equals awesome" - Hollywood.

Yeah adopt the game to your personality and who you are not the other way around. Im tired of people tryin to dress up and act like mystery and shit.

In the last couple weeks i went out with friends and stuff and i didnt think about picking up girls or anything i just wanted to have fun, people put too much emphasis on the whole pick up and forget about who they really are and what is really important in life; having fun with your friends or stressing over trying to pull some numbers?