How do i get rid of these barriers i put up for myself.

Right, i'm new at uni this year, and i am in halls, i see this girl i like, and its instant rapport with intense eye contact, so i just let it simmer, and then see her in the gym one day, go up and ask if she's up for coming to my birthday party, she said yes but didn't turn up, i expected that though.

anyway... later the night of my bday she is in the club we rolled onto, my social status etc was perfect, i was feeling perfect it was perfect, she opened and approached me, we chat a bit, but i was being approached by everyone so much tht night she gave up trying to hold a convo with me. perhaps and indication of insecurities,

anyway halloween, me and some lads had awesome outfits, a time to show off the bodies, and she so happened to be there, the logistics were perfect, it worked out as i had thought in my mind, spent alot of time with her she ends up holding my arm and hugging into me to keep her warm, i just go with my natural c&f game, no canned stuff and i'll admit i did use the, i'm not free tht will cost you dah dee dah per hour, shes like 'fine thats cool'

anyway later on when we had gone to a new venue, she's being opened by guys she knows left right and centre, (i wont lie she seems to have got with a few i know, a little discerning)

she comes up to me and asks me to buy her a drink..... haha nice one. i tell her that i don't buy for girls and she shouldn't test me, she has a cheeky grin tries to bust on me and get to me to buy her one, i don't give in and then say, why don't you buy me one seeing as you owe me and hour and halfs worth of my body contact.

i'm on the dance floor she comes up to me.... opens her arms for a hug... i shake my head she does the upset face and i pause, look her in the eye, and she thinks i'm not going to now, but i then grab her and hold her she pulls my hips in and grinds right up against me. perfect. i then stupidly, pretend to pass it off and dance as if it were normal dancing... she obviously bailed, perhaps through insecurities again, then about 5 mins later comes back and kisses me on the cheek, i receive happily and then she goes to one guy she has been with before who is soooo drunk and then they leave!?

a tactical by her, perhaps, but i reckon she was running low cos i wasn't accepting her fully... I also believe she has some major insecurities and if anything were to happen i dont want it to be for her to try make herself feel better but for pure attraction which i think it is, but i want to help her rid of these insecurities, its what's making her look needy, and also what's
damaging her chances with me, but i do like her enough to think she deserves more.


now this is my question. i reckon i wasn't fully receptive because, well she seems to be too easy, and also her accent annoys me lol, a bit loud too, it was like i was disappointed....

now this buggers me more cos i think she is really fit (attractive), but i hate how picky i'm being! its what stops me a lot of the time!

not only that, it's like i wont let her in because my last ltr nailed me and ever since i haven't been able to let anyone in to my emotions.... its improved my ability to initial game but when going further down the line.... it ruins it.

any ideas on how to get rid of these beliefs and how i should reframe them?

and regarding the girl, i'm going to let it cool till i talk to her, but i reckon im going to have to show some ioi's thats if she hasn't had her ego damaged enough by me yet and pull the trigger.

spread the love...

~sierra~

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im no casanova man, but it seems barely any of the puas on this forum know how to get out the friends zone. also, she does seem to be quite receptvie but it looks like faux interest. i dont know the actual term for it but its almost where girls are playing guys. you know shes interested, she knows youre interested, so shes playing it. she could have no intention of anyting with you man, but shes keeping it going. a wise man once said to me that if there is even one thing you dislike about a woman then the relaitonship probly wont work. if your looking for a one night stand then go for it man. just be the natural you are, and arrange to hang out for a day. if you want a relaitonship, id advise you to stay away man. if shes a slut (no offence but she seems it) then you could risk your sexual health, and for what? a quick slap and tickle in a pub toilet? the friend zone is a toughy, but from experience trying to get out of it makes you worse. the amount of girls ive been totally AFC to and just been heartlessly rejected by, i cant even count. i feel fine now but sometimes it gets to me a bit. actually with one of em (who im so into SPAM) its strengthened our friendship. my advice to you man. stay awya, but if you really cant help yourself. dhv. you gotta show her who your getting on, who your fucking, all the girls your getting. do it subtly. itll work dividends hopefully man. well i wish youall the luck in the world my man. and you seem english to me. not enough english guys on here. where ya based?

your friend,

Shred

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She sounds like she likes you but doesn't want to commit probably for similar reasons to you, my advice is get to know her, take her on a date that isn't a date. Then you can really get to know each other and will probably both feel more open, only thing to watch out for is that you both want each other and don't need each other.

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cheers for the advice guys, and yeh i live in scotland

any advice for the future on how to remove these limiting things like being so picky?

cheers

~sierra~

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I don't think being picky is necessarily a bad thing but if you are kinda sabotaging yourself without noticing could be inner game. Also you will be amazed the possibilities uni gives for puas, you can literally afford to sarge anytime, there are always events and nights on and there are infinite targets. I think in a uni town you can afford to be picky, in the last month I have met at least 2 girls that are amazing, one other point about uni, don't get disheartened by the club girls that inevitably hop on the student nights, there are wicked women you just have to hunt.

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being picky is a great skill, its a total DHV. if a girl sees that you go for absolutely anyone, you seem desperate. i would know, ive been there. hell i am there man. most girls would rather you wait for top choice meat than see you gnawing on scraps.

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