Guys and gals, I know this is a long post but I've come to realize it is going to be one of the, if not the hardest sticking points I will have to overcome. Not just for PUA, but my future as a business man and trail litigator depends on this! I would really appreciate it if you could take the extra time to read the whole post and give me your insights. Thanks guys!

So, there I was sarging alone and doing wonderful. Of course, to grow the balls to go out alone I took down a bunch of shots. Oddly, I got more # closes, bj closes, etc. going out solo than before when I went out with a buddy.

So, 2 weeks ago my buddies are finally back to it and out we go. This time I don't drink. What happens... AA? Lack of beliefs in myself? Nah...

I
AM
TOO
SLICK
!!!!!!!!!!!

I come off as too polished, likes an infomercial character. Girls look at me like "I'm full of shit." Girls have outright told me that over the course of the last two weeks. This weekend, it got so bad I just strait up asked "your looking at me like I'm full of shit" and she nodded. I've had this issue ALL MY LIFE: people at work asked me why I was so serious and formal, peers at school always thought I was trying to impress the professor with my "perfect" speaking, etc.

Why is this happening? Well, to start I have natural inclination to talk like this. Speaking like a politician is my comfort zone. I think, when I'm in the field and a little less comfortable, or any other situation where I have a mild discomfort, I switch over to talking like Mit Romney.

So the solution is simple, right? I'm not so sure. Thanks to PUA, I've come to realize how far reaching this dilemma is. This phenomena started when I was 16 (I'm now 24) so being Mr. Slick is deeply ingrained in me. Under certain situations, it is the real me and it causes me to come off insincere. After speaking to my best friend of many years, we came to the conclusion that ridding myself of my natural slickness won't be easy - but will be VERY rewarding once accomplished.

This weekend, 0 sets hooked. My only limiting belief and the only limiting factor that I consistantly saw was this slickness. I can only imagine what AMAZING rewards I will reap once I get rid of it and so I'm asking EVERYONE here if they could do me a HUGE favor and throw some info my way.

Any actors in the house? Anyone with similar problems? I'd LOVE o hear your stories, thoughts, and solutions.

A Minor

Ok, so you are gonna be a politician ill come at you like one.

Watch these videos of obama and mccain at the al smith dinner.

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kAjAtYqczkk[/youtube]


See how relaxed they are? Thats because they are at a place where they can let their sense of humor shine. They came out with their real politicians, instead of the fake politician persona's. They are relaxed.... AND thats what it is... its relaxed. If they were like this the whole time, this would have been a much more different campaign. Politician's come off fake. Thats exactly why no one trusts them. Thats why the women do not trust you when you are in politician voice. When you talk to them in politician voice, its condecending. No one enjoys the feeling of being talked down to.

Reeeeeeeeeeeeeellllllllllllllllllllllaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaxxxxxxxxxxxx.......

The alcohol relaxes you and basically pulls the stick outta your ass. The alocohol relaxes you and helps you be yourself. It helps you have no fear to say the things you want to say, and act how you want to act. Women don't want to talk to politicians and they don't want to feel like they are being given a sales pitch. So relax a bit, have a couple shots, then just start to ween off the liquid courage a bit...

This is what I would do, and what I do. Before you go out, go to the mall or large shopping area, and talk to as many hired guns as you can. Get yourself in a talkative/flirty mood. Its less pressure, and gives you the ability to talk to several women in a shorter amount of time. I love to do it, because it works wonders for me to help get my mind rolling. Just think of it as batting practice before you get out in the field.

CK

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success is my only mother fucking option, failure is not.

Chino,

As I said before, this is a true and hard sticking point for me so I really appreciate you taking the time to compose that response.

Yes, your right. The "slickness" comes out due to a lack of comfort somewhere within me. When I'm talking to my friend on the phone, its no where near that level. Though I don't think I'll ever completely get rid of it (nor do I want to, some political talk is good in my future profession) I think relaxing will help tremendously.

I think part of the issue with PUA is that it encourages this behavior in me. Stand out, speak loudly... routines themselves are inherently slick "You see, because your eyes are shaped like this it implies blah blah." (I do a lot of cold reading routines) In any case, I'm doing to attempt to do just what you said tonight.

I'll post this weekends results here.

A Minor

I think you're approaching it wrong. Instead of thinking you need to change or reduce your current personality maybe the answer is just injecting it with a few other traits that help offset your strong "politician" like manor. That was why Clinton was considered one of the most charming men who ever lived. Ol' Slick Willy could talk all day in a straight to the point coherent tone and manor of speaking but then hell slip you a wink and a smirk to let you know that beneath it all there's a warm, funny, down home guy that's a lot of fun to be around.

I too can at times have a very professional manor but it works for me because at first sight most people would never expect me to be as intelligent and together as I am so it throws them for a loop. But I've learned after getting over the initial shock it can become overbearing unless I inject some fun into it as well. Women respect and admire intelligence but they also don't want to be bored or felt like they're being given the company line.

Stay true to yourself but remember to also be warm, funny and most importantly genuine.