Previously, a problem I was having was as follows: I would get a phone number and the girl would be interested and I would bullshit too much instead of asking her out, eventually resulting in her loosing interest. Since realizing where I was making girls lose interest, I became more direct. After securing numbers, I have been having some success getting getting the initial date recently.

However, I am now running into a different grey area. There are a small handful of girls that I am currently sexually interested in (possibly romantically but its too early too say, currently I can only say with certainty that there is sexual interest on my part). I have managed to get a first date with a couple of them (took one too starbucks etc.) but I am struggling how to make the transition into the bed. I don't know when I should be making the move to become more sexually indicating. This is an area I have not had excessive experience in. Just as I was previously causing girls to lose interest because i didnt ask them out, similarly i am beginning to wonder if now I have caused a couple of these girls to lose interest because since we have been hanging out I have not made a sexual move. For example, with one of these girls, she was very interested after the first date but lately seems to be losing interest, as I asked her to hangout this week and got no response. Or maybe it was for a different reason.

Your first mistake is taking a girl to starbucks. Take a girl out to drinks, at night, near your place (or control the driving, ideally, have her meet at your place and then go from there in your care). Then the logistics are easy. Search my site for an article on how to get her to your place. The main idea is plausible deniability, e.g. make up some stupid excuse for her to come over.

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I currently am at a university but am just under the legal drinking age, so that unfortunately rules out that option. I could try inviting them to a party but I prefer to have one on one time with the girl

So take em out somewhere that doesn't require you to be 21, but at night. Even starbucks I guess, though I prefer a venue with dim lighting.

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Well obviously it varies largely on the person and on circumstances, but as a general reference point when you are dating, how many dates does it take before you kiss her? have sex?

You've got to start escalating sexually. Granted, it is tough if you are not 21 and not going out with her late at night for drinks. But you've got to be a sexual person in general without directing it right at her. Make uninterested convo with her about girls favorite sex positions, get her to talk about fantasies. Point out a very attractive female that has different attributes than her. If she has curves and a small chest, point out how sexy this other girl is with a small waist and big chest. She'll catch on. I say just up the ante a little bit, if you're not getting anywhere with what you're doing, whats the harm in pushing it further?

I guess I am having trouble escalating. I have not had a whole lot of experience doing so and it is not second nature..yet. I don't want to escalate at the wrong time and mess it up, I am trying to learn when it is the right time, to bring her to the bedroom for example. I actually just had a first date today and we had a good time. She wants to meet up again. We had some conversation on sexual topics and I made good eye contact but on this first date when she dropped me off not much happened, only a hug on the first date which I dont think I should be too concerned about. I guess on the second date I may try to go for more. Maybe when she drops me off I can go in for a kiss.

As little as 1 date to get sex. You should always be going for that.

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When you are trying to get the girl in to bed do you think it would be more effective to be more subtle about it or more obvious? i guess i am referring more to words. my body language i like to make it more obvious but idk whether to just straight up tell her i wanna have sex (not in those words) or just to be more subtle then go for it