Ok, a little bit over-dramatic but genuinly I am at a total low-point. I dip in and out of the game as and when I have steadier girlfriends. I am just kicking off again and I have lost all mmy confidence.

Yesterday I was sitting drinking coffee when a HB7 came in with a group of friends. I smiled at her and she peeled off the group and sat at a table next to me (clearly too small for her and all her friends). I should have opened, it was so easy. But I CHOKED. I started fiddling with my phone, so did she. It was embarassing.

Today I have just seen a HB8 with the biggest rack you ever saw, I'm not kidding you, they were genuinly ridiculous. And she was young. I got close but kept bottling it and using my phone, I couldn't think of a good opener, I was too nervous. I CHOKED again.

I feel totally crap about myself now. Especially today, that girl was un-believable! Anyway, just thought I'd moan to y'all. (not my normal thing). But any postive strategies welcome.

How shit do u feel for not doing it? go on really think about, it sucks right now doesnt it. You missed a chance, its never gonna happen again there is a big fat 0% chance of you ever closing that girl

No, stop thinking about anything else i want to clearly see and feel how shit it is knowing you wimped out.......

Right. I shall call this feeling the ISD (i shouldda done it). Next time u see a girl, get an oppotunity or anything where u feeling you cant do it. Remember ur ISD feeling and know the only way to prevent that feeling is to take that oppotunity and just do it!! Thinking is just a way to make a logical excuse. Do first, rationalise it later.

Now, make me some lunch, writing that made me hungery

Madals

So true! I felt like that from last night then i thought about all the postive things I had done,, what madals said is so right, and I'm going to adopt that attitude!

Totti;;

The only thing you can do is realise that this feeling sucks and that the only way to not feel this way is to open those sets.
Life is all about opportunity and you just missed a few but there will be heaps more. So dont waste those ones

keep your head up

Simple....quit thinking dude!

If you MUST think, then think that they are just women, they could have value, but you will never know until you approach and talk, then it does happen from time to time that some aren't worth it and some are, you just got to deal dude!

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" It is not enough to conquer, one must know how to seduce"

Stop thinking you "need a good opener", cause there's no such thing. It's a myth that there's good openers. There's bad ones for sure, but really as long as it's not bad, then it's good, cause all an opener is, is to establish contact and begin talking, as long as it achieves that, then it was good. Personally every single time someone asks me for a good opener, I tell them the same thing, "Hi." It opens the door and after that, you just start talking, because once you've opened conversation, it's all downhill from there.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Man I know what you mean. But its all about learning from the "failures". I made a mistake one time for not # closing a girl who was basically asking for it and was kickingg myself for being such a dumbass.

That experienced taught me that I would rather do something than do nothing.

You live you learn bro.

Thanks so much for reasoned responses guys, really feel supported. *wipes eye* lol. I think a run of things just hit up on me and this final chick was the last straw. Still kicking myself that I let such an amazing girl pass me by (seriously JJ on a size 8 body at least no lie!). Anyway, feeling more positive now.

Particularly thanks for the advice on focussing on the crap feeling and trying to remember that next time I have a chance to open a set. I realise looking back all I did was focus on what might happen if I went in and I was way too negative! Great, simple advice. Thanks.

To all much love, keep it positive

If u cant think of an opener, just go direct. "Hi" "How r u" "Hows it going" "Hey u looked really interesting, i wanted to come say hi"
Any of those work, trust me. But u have to be confident, no matter what your opener is.

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The coolest nigga, what

Hey where you are at and whats happened - its the same for EVERYONE at some point. Even the gamest guys here will experience this at some point. I have been firing on all cylinders and been shagging like a machine gun one day and then totally choked and blown out the next. The difference is always the same - its my inner game that matters.

One thing you might want to do is to follow Styles advice in his books about building inner game first by self boosting thru clothes and saying to yourself outloud "I am great, I am fantastic, I deserve the best'. I know it sounds stupid, and its even worse if you even suspect anyone can hear but it works (for me). I use the same technique for presentations at work too.

Get your inner game firing and you'll start automagically saying the right things.

Just a quick update to let you know I opened a two set of HB8s the other day. Not the best set ever but it got me a bit of confidence back. Used a few of the above techniques too.