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 Post subject: Managing Expectations
PostPosted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 5:06 pm 
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For all you achieved PUA's out there, have you ever found yourself in a situation with 4, maybe 5 girls, all who want to escalate your "relationship" into something more? I am in the situation right now, and I got 5 girls, all that want to "date" me. All of them have different expectations of me, are all at different points of their life, and all have their own set of problems. What I want is just to "date" these girls...nothing more. But on the flip side, when you tell a a girl that your just "dating" her, she assumes that she is the only girl your dating. I don't want to feel guilty when I'm hanging out with other girls, but I do, because although I'm not telling them Im dating other girls, I am. I really don't want this to blow up in my face. My question is this, PUA's: How do you respond when a girl tries to "label" your relationship?

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There are a number of things you can do.

You can tell her that you two are "enjoying a deep meaningful relationship without expectations, labels, or guilt."

Or you can say something like "I don't want to be your boyfriend. I want to be the guy you're sneaking around with behind your boyfriend's back."

Or you could just say that you two are CASUALLY dating.

Make it clear that you're not monogamous. Maybe "I'm not monogamous" will do the trick. Usually works for me.


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PostPosted: Mon Aug 25, 2008 7:47 pm 
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Casual dating is a great term to label the relationship with, cause then it's up to her whether she wants to think about you with other women or not. As long as they don't have severe hangups that are against open relationships, then they will generally just drop it and realise that you're gonna do what you're gonna do, but she also has the right to do whatever she wants as well.

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