Hey what's up guys? I've just read something in a story that reminded me how much we like those who share our own passions/gestures/speech patterns/vocabulary/thought process/etc etc.

I've always been one to listen to someone say something, and comment on it. It can be EITHER an agreement or disagreement followed by why i believe so. Some say it's insecurity for always having to show your true stance on a matter....but i've always thought of it as simply being genuine. If someone really didn't believe in something i said but "at the time" did so...later on i find out something that contradicts that....they'd be labeled as a fake. Not good at all....incongruence is a big no no.

But then again.....people simply LIKE people who are like them. Is there a time and place to vent your differences/disagreements with the chick? Should you hardcore mirror as much as possible ...even pretend to be interested in their fascination with a celebrity scandel ....or do what i've always done "that shit is such a waste of time"?

Maybe it's just simply women whom have a greater dislike for those who don't share their ideals? I for one would enjoy someone who can always challenge me...as long as they can support their opposing claims though, not simply say "you're wrong"...and can't elaborate. I know at some point a distinction has to be made.....but until much further into rapport maybe?

My question in a nut shell: At the early stages of conversing with a possible sexual partner, is it MOST effective to appear to be most agreeable to their identity, and only later on AFTER physical actions...allow your real opinion be made? I ask this because although i like being an individual/outspoken/opinionated, i've found that most people can't handle being challenged. What do you guys think? Thank you for reading.

I sometimes have a problem(?) with this. If someone says something that is obviously untrue, biased or just silly i can't just nod along. Especially if they're complaining. It just annoys me. I've toned it down to say things like "i don't know about that but" and stuff. Also when people tell stories, it peeves the hell out of me when they unconciously or conciously add things or make it seem like something different happens. I knew a guy who after I'd tell him something that happens to me he'd start telling people and by the end of it he'd make it seem like it happened to him and i was just there, even though he wasn't even there for real. Or he'd say he did things I did. Like I called a girl over once and was talking about her age and stuff and he was sitting next to me, later he'd talk to people and say that he was having the conversation with the girl. He was a really cool guy, but this stuff got real annoying.

there is no black and white.

if it makes them happy, and in turn makes you happy, to sit there to talk about whatever bs girls are into nowadays, then do it. but don't do it to the point that you just become her mini-me.

use your discretion. everything in moderation.

Mirroring is more about body language rather than what you might say to someone. You mimic her posture and movements but don't be too obvious about it. Just do it once in awhile especially if she's really trying to drive home a point in a serious discussion.

Agreeing with everything a chick says is disingenuous and she'll see right through you. If you're a man who takes a stand and defends his position on any given subject, a chick will respect that in most cases even if she disagrees.

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hey guys ty for the replies.

lol introvert ..i get you....it gets under my skin when i can smell bullshit and choose not to point it out. But kinda went on a tangent there haha.

It doesn't make me happy talking about Runway Model or w/e the shower is called.....i could care less b/c there's so many important/fun things to talk about other than watching a TV show about OTHER PEOPLE'S lives. Why not enjoy your own. So if i can't enjoy it, should i just fake it? This kind of reminds me of what girls say after she has sex with a guy...."well he told me he loved me!". Should i simply bullshit a girl until i can hook her enough to allow my true personality to come out? Although being always honest is good...it will also limit my options...and my personality alone is usually a conflicting one. Not because i try to argue, just because i like to look at one thing from all different angles and let the person know that what "they" think is the way, isn't the ONLY way. Open mind?

Charlie brown mirroring is not "more" about body language. Mirroring is MIRRORING. That includes EVERY SINGLE squirk someone does. From rate of eye contact/breath rate/clothing style/walking style/eating style/sneezing style/wiping your ass style. "omg you sit down when you wipe too?! NICE!" You get my point haha. There's much more to mirroring then body language, and in this post i'm talking about conversational mirroring.

Any more thoughts please?