I think most puas will agree that it's a very bad thing to become a girls shoulder-to-cry-on if you're trying to attract her! Like, you start to seem more like a friend or even a girlfriend if you listen to all her problems and try to help her thru them

But my question is, how do you stop a girl when she starts doing this and reassert your value as a MAN without seeming like a jerk?

I tell her the same thing I would tell a good friend:

Stop it! Whenever you catch yourself thinking about something negative, you need to reverse it and think about it in a positive light!

To us on this forum this sounds familiar... it's the Law of Attraction. This is the exact thing I do and honestly it's a life changing skill once you master it. This way not only do you not listen to her problems and thus have the bad feelings about them associated with you (which you want to avoid at all costs), but now you can lead her into thinking positively without seeming like a jerk.

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I just tell her straight up, "Listen. When you're with me, it's all about feeling GOOD, k? I'm sure you have friends that you can vent negativity to, but think of me as a different kind of person who offers something better. Tell me, do you remember when we were all just little happy kids without a care in the world? blah blah blah"

From there I'd go into one of my original routines that has to do with reflecting on childhood, but that's not necessary. Just set that boundary of "I'm not your emotional tampon" and you're set.

It depends on how your game is going. It can be a massive confidence builder and create a our-world-conspiracy...

all you need to do is change the subject to a more positive one instead of this negative one that's occurred by doing this you perserve to her that you are a possibly more then a friend since you still evoke good feelings while not having that weird friend vibe about you. If you feel you can't do this by conversing then change her mood by just shifting your environment like if she was talking to you on her porch or something try to stop her by merely saying " well we can stay here and be depressed all night or we can go out and do something" you decide that something. I hope this helps you out