i am having some problems with grinding. At clubs (all ages) i'll walk up to a girl and start grinding and let's say out of 10 i get rejected 5 times either right away or after a song. They sometimes turn around to look at my face and reject me.Why do they do this? it's really affecting my game and confidence. At my high school i am considered ""hot"" and i get it all the time, walking outside or anywhere. So it confuses me when at times i'll go up to this ugly, or not thhhatt attracitve girl to dance and she rejects me? IS there a technique that i am missing or maybe the way i am approaching? Something i should be wearing? Any advice would be great

Comfort? They may feel attracted to you so as aresult they don't want to look like a slut. Get too know them first.

Club game is all about confidence. I was like this for years and it fucking ruined me, i asked something similar recently on this forum and got some great advice. They told me that if you believe you are ugly then the women pick up on this. Also grinding from the back doesn't convey confidence.

Go to the club intending to have fun and not to pull and if it happens great. Walk along the dancefloor and if you see a girl you like then give her a little nudge with your hips against hers to see if she is interested. I then take hold of her hand and wen i am dancing with her i spin her and pull her towards me etc, go to youtube and type in afc adam dancefloor game and check out his short clip.

Also do salsa or some sort of dance as this is meant to really help.

Good luck man, once your inner game improves im sure you will laugh at problems like this

Agreed, this seems o be the answer.

the answer is comfort. they dont feel comfortable dancing with a stranger. no girl does.

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They are not rejecting you, just what you represent! they don't want to come off as a slut. SO after you grind you should walk off the dance floor and talk to some people. Its good when other girls see the attention you get onstage! they will be intrigued allot more. Best set to hit after a dance grind is the set most full with women! They are usually all single and looking. Stop thinking about it as "you are rejected" they don't even know you. How can they reject someone they don't know. And you know your worth value and your a cool person. You are the best to judge who you are for yourself, so why should someone else have power over your own self actualization?

Look into some inner game, try Tony Robins he does some inspirational talks. Or hypntoica, allot of great stuff to be learned from him.

One last thing, stop acting as if you are the victim or you will always play that role.

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lol grinding, one of man's only dance moves...

Anyways, one thing you NEVER want to do is sneak up behind a woman and just start grinding. This can be seen as sketchy and improper. The only women that will actually go for this stuff are the wasted ones or ones you dont really want to meet lol.

Its always best to approach from the front. Walk towards them slowly with a seductive look in your eyes. I found its also easiest when your very playful, open and you should approach with a greater energy than them. Why else should she want to dance with you if its going to be boring and lame?? Do a little butt bump, give them a twirl and start dancing. Maybe do a high five, hold her hand and spin her I also like to just meet girls in quieter areas like the bar first then just pull them onto the dance floor, caveman style.

Like the other guys above me said, its all about comfort...and about being a man who can lead. It is best to establish some sort of connection or at least conversation before you start grinding

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sounds like you could be coming off as too creepy. If you're "hot" you'd have better luck pulling wallflowers and dancing with them Im thinking.

Is it ok to get hard when a HB starts grinding you?

It's only human

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