Okay,

So last night i went to a club for the first time. Im only 17, legal age in sydney is 18 so i used my bros id and got in easy no problems.

For my first time in a club it was very intimidating, i dont know what it was like for the rest of you but i was talking to my friend and he agrees.

Heres the dilemma: ive been through alot of shit in my life, the kind that makes someone feel like i dont care about what anyone else thinks or possibly i dont care about anyone at all (still working out this one). Which is good for pickup as i understand. But as much as i dont care what they think or how i look in their eyes i still dont know what to say. I dont know if nerves got to me last night but i wasnt feeling like my usual self and everything i have been working on just went out the window.

What do you guys think? Just nervous from first time in club or something im going to look further into?

haha yeah i used 2 know a really quiet guy who suddenly got really talkative and started gesticulating all the time. I liked him way better when he was quiet because he was full of talk but had nothing real to say, and it annoyed me.

I'm pretty quiet too and I know I am capable of being annoying when talkative, people only really get me after spending time and having thoughtful conversations.

Thing is if you don't talk much "da club" isn't the best place to get girls, cuz they all strangers looking for quick fun. I usually go for ones I know already. But if you insist on it the best thing to do is try to dance with someone. Your a deep, experienced guy (lol...) so you make your connections through affectionate touches and meaningful looks, so dance floor is a good place for that. Firm, assertive, non-needy touches, and more eyes, talk is natural and friendly, you can go all deep on 'em after.

What I end up doing, not really on purpose, is letting my friends attract people, so I make many of my friends through other friends, and this works great to meet girls too cuz if my friends like her I probably will, so definitely try going with friends, of both genders. If your friendly with people who regularly go their you'll have more luck.

A nightclub is a MAN'S hunting ground. Now, what does pickup ultimately teach you to become? That's right, a MAN.

A nightclub is full of intimidating overstimulation and women with bitch shields up the ass. Experience will make you impermeable to these mental pressures.

Man up and tread the shark infested waters without fear, matey. Yarr.

So I read you did not care or give much thought to your sets, you always have to care to some degree or it will leak threw to your game, and might let threw information to the girl that you only want to lose your virginity, forget everything about not caring , everyone cares about something..doubt you'd have the trouble you had if you really did not care about the targets, as I take it you made no approaches that night.

And dont worry about the club scene and feeling insecure, new areas which we are not familiar with makes most people nervous and a bit on the edge since its not familiar.

SF

First time in a club is difficult for the vast majority of people, especially when you are younger than everyone else there. Next time you go, it will be much easier and the time after that, easier still. Eventually walking into a club feels just like walking into your living room and you are just as comfortable in either place.

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Happens, probably a shitty club, or you guys analyzed too much and didn't use the 3 seconds rule.

What I like is to go to a club early, befriend everyone who comes in (discreetly of course), especially the guys, since I love to take advantage of AFCs, then you pretty much have half of the club. Now the time is around 10:30 to 11:00, and by the time the club gets crowded (12:00) you can go around opening people, chat them up, tell em it was nice meeting em, take a break at the "bases" you established earlier, and keep repeating, until you find a target you want to close.

Of course, I do this with a Wing and he's a damn good approacher being Italian and me Chinese ( I'm a good translator ^__^ )

it was definately not a shitty club, one of the best in sydney and i made one approach which didnt amount to anything.

i still had alot of fun which was my aim for the night but i want more from it in the future.

thanks for the replies.