So I was on a flight home from London to NY and I was hoping that i would be sitting next to some hot girl on the trip home. Usually I have shit luck, but this time I got what I wanted and was next to a HB8 from Norway. Like the really hot type of girl --> brunette with blue eyes ;D. It would be awesome because I would be stuck with her for 7-8 hours.

However, since it was on a plane I didn't want to try too much since people were around and if shit didnt work out I would be sitting awkwardly next to this girl for the entire trip lol. "Whatever" I said to myself as I started to game her. I kept it pretty cool but I could tell it was working and she was beginning to like me. We talked about loads of stuff from her childhood and she mentioned that she just recently broke up with her bf. Even better was that she was travelling to the states for the first time by herself and was away from her family to live with her friend in Connecticut. All the pieces were in place for a successful close but I messed it up!

Honestly I wanted to hook up with her, but part of me thought it would be weird to do it on a plane especialy if it didnt go well and I was stuck next to her. But I know that I DEFINATELY could have done it but Im not sure why I didnt? We would gaze into each others eyes for longer than normal and at one point she would grab my hand out of the blue just to hold it. She even left her hand on my thigh and I left mine on hers. I pulled a novice mistake and waited toooo long to make a move. When I did try to go for the kiss it did not work, so I just negged her and continued to build comfort, but decided it would prob be best not to try anything more. She prob thought I was a wussy for not kissing her, but im not sure. Anyways she gave me her email because she would be living in Connecticut for the summer and I would be in NYC so we might meet up.

I dont know if I was just being a dam pussy afc, but it felt weird to me to be hooking up with a complete stranger on an airplane... :-\ You guys have any insight into this? Was I just being a pansy or was my hesitance legit? I have never encountered this situation before so it would be good to know for future reference ^^

P.S. Any advice on what to say in the email to her in order to get her out again? I know I can close her in a normal setting but it'll be hard to get her out.

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Far worse could have happened. You were took what steps you were comfortable with and you made a mistake which happens to the best of us. A woman saying she recently broke up with her boyfriend is a really good sign. You made one mistake amidst a fantastic senario.

It sounds like your sticking point was an internal conflict with hooking up with a girl on a plane; you had preset beliefs about doing this which prevented you from achieving your goal. Think of this way: you thought, "I should go for the kiss" and your subconcious mind gave you anxiety emotions to indirectly tell you, "you can't do that, it's wrong, what if X happens?" Your emotional subconcious mind always overpowers your concious mind. Your society programming got the better of you. You might want to look into why you didn't so you can resolve that inner belief.

If she made the first move by going for your hand that is a sign that she was REALLY into you and giving you permission [even a request] to move forward. Girls are always subconciously worried about what society will view them as; it's their cultural programming. After she put her hand on my thigh I would have just done an eye gaze and sealed the deal. Just as she has cultural programming you have cultural programming and unconcious beliefs about it being wrong to hook up with a stranger on a plane. Unfortunatley this could be for any number of reasons and I can't tell you why you did it.

Sit down and go back to that situation and ask yourself, "What are the things that could have gone wrong if I kissed her?" because many times we act on unconcious beilefs without even being fully aware of why we do it. When women are kissing a guy they want to feel like he is their prince and he MUST have a certain dominant but caring quality to convey this.

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And re: getting back in touch with her, drop a line in a few days asking how her trip's going so far and suggest that she come into New York next weekend and you can show her around the city. Remind her that the first time she sees New York should be with someone who knows it well.