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PostPosted: Thu May 29, 2008 8:20 pm 
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First of all lets nail this down straight.

I use outer game, I use time bridging, I use indirect AND direct gaming strategies, and most importantly my method that I have developed through my experiences in PU was/is based on MM.

I think it's important to nail this down to ensure that people can make a decision on whether I'm baised when I say this or not.

This really only applies to MM students and indirect players.
RELAX.
Stop asking about petty things like whether going out with someone X times a week is bad. Whether you should text or Call. Whether you should let her see you on web-cam. If its ok to split the bill rather than make her pay.

For these types of questions, YOU should be able to provide the answer, PU is trying to teach you to be self reliant with women. You move away from that goal when you need to ask about the tiniest things, their is playing by the rules, and their is paranoia. You need to be able to read a woman and be able to see what she is feeling and more importantly what you can say or do to move the relationship towards your goals.

There is no exact answer for anything, people are people their interactions can only be broken down so far. The MM is a guideline not a rule book or exact manual to the female physche, it's a guideline and a method.

Just enjoy the interactions you have with women and stop worrying about how your situation differs to that in the book.


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PostPosted: Fri May 30, 2008 12:57 am 
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Here's to being paranoid! In actual fact, most people here I think are kinda new to the girl thing. It's hard no doubt and we're all social and striving to gain acceptance in what we do. I think the questions are all just asking for validation...asking "am I okay?" You're all okay in my books :) No worries and chill. Everything has a habit of working itself out!

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PostPosted: Fri May 30, 2008 12:05 pm 
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Here's to being paranoid! In actual fact, most people here I think are kinda new to the girl thing. It's hard no doubt and we're all social and striving to gain acceptance in what we do. I think the questions are all just asking for validation...asking "am I okay?" You're all okay in my books :) No worries and chill. Everything has a habit of working itself out!
Agreed for the most part.
However many people neglet inner game, I'm not condemming anyone, just pushing them on their way to self developement.


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PostPosted: Fri May 30, 2008 9:54 pm 
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Disagree. Most people here are not because they have super social intuition or skills. We learn. It comes with time. Sometimes you need to learn the details to be able to understand in the future that they are actually irrelevant.


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PostPosted: Sat May 31, 2008 9:23 pm 
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Disagree. Most people here are not because they have super social intuition or skills. We learn. It comes with time. Sometimes you need to learn the details to be able to understand in the future that they are actually irrelevant.
Yes but sooner or later we must be weaned of of our dependance on figures and let the figures slip. You need to be able to problem solve, if you get a reaction in the field that you are uncertain of and your instant responce is to ask this forum, what chance do you have in PU.

We need to teach people to say, "OK didn't understand that, lets solve this".

I'm merely putting emphasis on the need for people to develope social problem solving and self reliance.

You can say "oh but hey things will naturally sort themselves out"

Yeah for some maybe, but this ain't a natural process for learning about social interactions. Therefore nature has no say in how this specefically progresses, we do, the community do and the PUA's learning this do.

I'm trying to get certain people to ask about real questions like, "how do I deal with this response I've been getting alot"

Not "How often should I call her, she is.... ....and has a personality of....an sometimes she.... ..." then expecting the PUG's and experienced members of this community to formulate a quick fix soloution.


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