Either or...i find it hilarious so all good.

Some ppl and i started to smoke and chill...this girl maybe hb6 face but kinda fat. I thought her hair was pretty ..looked clean..and was smart. So we start flirting and wut not and she's always wanting me to come out...so last week i up the notch a lil and after got her phone number.

Didnt call her entire week b/c i was busy, but responded when i could to her txts when i could...so she txts me right before i'm about to go to bed to smoke.

We smoke..she's all over me running into me..brushing hand against mine/ass. But i'm still not sure if i wanna(in all honesty lower myself) just for some ass. So we decide to 'watch a movie"..i just sit down and we start to talk..and i'm owning it up with the topic of psychology..her hand is over mine..leg over mine...seriously. The only IOIS necessary but i STILL didn't know if i wanted to do it(maybe making me look like a chump). So i finally say.

me: i dont know
hb: what don't you know
me: if i should kiss you or continue our conversation
me: i'm enjoying the one so far but i want to indulge to find out

(honestly improv'd so i hope it doesn't sound pre planned/corny)

Looked at her..we started to kiss..slip a lil tongue
then she says "we can't...i have a boyfriend". i Basically say it's all cool and that it's late and i wanna bounce.

Wtf. In all honesty i think she's a insecure girl and wanted to "play me" so she can feel better about herself "scoring" with someone like me. I wish i could tell her i just wanted a blowjob.

Thanks for reading..what happened?

Nope. Here's something about women you don't know but will know after reading this post.

1. Women REALLY care about what others, men included, think of them.
2. Women don't actually care whether or not they cheat in their relationships.
3. Women suspect that most men only see women that are faithful in relationships in high regard, and that men look down upon women who cheat.
4. When traveling through the arousing paradise of Buying Temperature land, women want to have sex with the man that leads her through it. However, if she's in a relationship, she has to test and see if the man actually wants to go through with this. Therefore, she throws out "I have a boyfriend" at the last minute.

In her head:
1. I want to have sex with this man, but I don't want him to see me as low value.
2. I need to test if his values are "women who cheat are bad sluts."
3. If he stops and ejects to me saying "I have a boyfriend," I may not get laid right now, but at least he'll still see me as someone with values.
4. If he continues sexual escalation after I say "I have a boyfriend," I won't be held responsible for lacking morals because I am currently in this man's reality. It means that his reality says "cheating right now is just fine."

By the way, if you know her boyfriend and he's actually a friend of yours, you shouldn't be doing this shit.

True next time i'll know to just brush it off instead of taking what she says into too much consideration(in this type of situation). She txted me later saying

"Hey i'm really sorry i didn't tell you before" or something like that
me: we're breaking up, i'm calling the lawyer first thing in the morning
"nooo.." blah something about breaking up
Me: "and i'm taking the dog. court will be tomorrow so i'll need my sleep, night babe"

i think it was actually a good way to handle it afterwards, but doesn't matter if i'm still in my room by myself.

THanks chief for your advice!