Any tips to get into the abundance mentality? I am still new at PUA and each time i meet a really SHB I get a bit hung up over her. I psych myself out thinking she is way too pretty and has to have a bf. How do you guys get over that feeling?

hey dude, i know what ya mean by that, there was this one HB that was amzing and i too thought she had a BF.

the only thing that helped me out was to go back out into the field and find someone else or if you think that you do really like her then maybe you should give it a shot, i mean for all you know she is a SHB and its up to her to either carry on with the game or to leave.

choice is yours mate

man that is AFC thinking. No girl is more valuable than u, u deserve any girl u see. Life is short man take that girl, fuck her.Even thou she had bf it doesnt mean she is happy with him, he would probably be some average guy.You are pua man u are more interesting than that guy!
I saw yesterday one mega sexy super HB 10+ with one guy who was player but i could see that he was nervous and they barely smiled.You are pick up artist and u can get any girl u want !

remember that you are the prize!!! she should feel privelaged to be talking to you... stop making excuses for yourself and just do it... there is nothing wrong with atleast going for her wether she has a BF or not... and the key thing is to never make assumptions that she has a BF... u can only make that assumption if she is with a guy and holding his hand... if u dont see that... Game On!!!!

Who cares if she has a BF? not saying this to be disrespectful but i got in the game to better myself. And so far i have. The perks of doing it is the women you meet.

Dont look at it as trying to score. Look at it as meeting people, the ladies can tell whats on your mind even before the approach. Go out with and attitude that says.. ya know what! i dont care about the outcome.

She might have a BF, she might not be happy with him and wants something better. She might be out looking for someone new. She might be a lesbian, she might be this or that. You never know untill you try.

Enjoy the ride and dont have a particular outcome in mind, you cant go wrong.

~ Mystic

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"The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing you will make one."

Even if she does, it makes no wall between you and her. You can still have fun.

She's pretty? And what is she like besides that? Smart? Flirty? Witty? Or not?

You are valuable enough to have anything you desire. You do deserve it. She's no extra special. Hot women don't come in "limited editions". There are tons of them.

And don't worry. You will realize this over time - at one point you'll think about women in your life. And be amazed how many of them were there.

And with every single one you learned something.

Carpe Diem.

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You don't know the future, you can't change the past. The only thing that matters is THE CURRENT MOMENT.

I used to think the same way until recently when I really got into this stuffs, and as my social proof increased, I started learning some things about the HBs at my school (HS that is).

75% of them are either sluts, alcoholics, or drug addicts.

Every time I see an HB now, I keep that in mind, and it DLVs them, at least in my mind, and I don't get nervous anymore.

Try it. Every time you see an HB and you think she is perfect, come up with any story to make her seem less of an angel, and that you should help with your AA

I got over the issue of girls with bfs, by realising that unless they are in a solidly committed exclusive relationship, then they are still on the market. They are trying to find the best mate for them and just cause they are with someone now, doesn't mean that if a better one comes along, that they won't go for you instead of the guy they are currently with.

I've had girls tell me straight up that they have bfs and then I said I had cold hands, so I put my hands into their pants pockets and hold them close. After talking a bit and showing that I really could care less, that I'm not just after a fuck, but interested in seeing who they are, then they end up snuggling up and giving me their number.

You treat them well and if their bf doesn't then they'd rather be with you.

Aside from that, abundance is easy to realise when you think how many guys aren't in relationships, there are about as many girls that aren't in relationships, because we are fairly close in population, although in some areas, you might have as many as 3 girls to 1 guy in the city.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

Is he? is he really the prize or is that what hes trying to make people believe? Does he have anything new to offer her that the guy next to him cant after reading a book?

Sorry for the negativity, im sure i'll probly get sent another warning for not being a mindless 'your the prize' person. I mean, are you really the prize? You come to a website and dump all your insecurities around the place, get advice then go out and fool women into thinking that you are the prize when thats all your told to make her believe.

You guys need to stop acting like the prize and just be the fucking prize Buff up, improve your social skills all round, dump the routines. Offer her something else that a man with a book cant.

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'Oh my, you sir are the Moriarty of self awareness and personnal refelection'

What a title!

I honestly love you guys! All my life I have tried to transform towards self perfectibility, and I need to hold the mindset that I am the prize. Will get back on the affirmations before bed.

Thanks all

lol mate he is the prize if he believes that he is... i believe that i have plenty to offer that other people dont and others may have things to offer that i dont... everyone is different... and everyone definately has something different to offer... and by the way "acting like the prize?" "fooling girls to believe that youre the prize?" you are fooling urself here mate... thats not what i was saying... im saying that he needs to believe in himself and stop making excuses for himself and like u said "be the prize" thats the message im trying to get across