Afternoon Guys,
I want to share with you my philosophy on the game which I teach here in Switzerland. It's powerful and it has made me very happy. Learn from it, or ignore it, or take bits and pieces from it, but for god sake enjoy it
I see a lot of posts on here and other forums relating to routines, openers, how to kiss close etc. These techniques are grand and they will get you results. However, it strikes me that the community has lost it's sight a bit and its just looking for the quick wins and forgetting about the need for a strong foundation.
In order to really become a class PUA and to take your new skills into further areas of your life (your career, finances etc)
we need a change of paradigm. This is not a criticism. It's the natural path, we constantly look for more efficient and quicker ways of getting things done. However, by doing this, we are missing out on the best results.
It's important to first get the principles right. What I am going to tell you may sound counter productive. The first thing we need to do is forget about hot chicks. Instead, we must focus of ourselves. There are certain principles that we need to adopt in order to be successful and actually be able to turn our lives around in the way that we want. You will not get these from routines, or lines no matter how much you use them.
Now this information isn't for everyone. If all you are interested in is one night stands then you can stop reading now. If you aren't interested in becoming a better version of you or enhancing your love life, your career and finances then stop wasting your time. This isn't for you.
If you're still reading then good. The first and most important step is will, that goes for any endeavour.
There is no doubt that routines works, so do certain lines and so does vocal training and all the other things you will be reading on this forum. However, what makes the class PUA's that we all respect different from the others? It's that, consciously or not, they all follow a set of principles which are based deep within their character. However, like a personal trainer won't tell you all of their tips and tricks as they would be out of job, neither will the master PUA's share everything. Its reputational and financial protection for them. Well, I have no such care about this.
So, the principles are as follows. I will tell you now that these must become you. Not something you consciously do but they must become as much of your character as other more negative traits are now. It's not easy. That's the bad news.
However it will change your game and your life. It did for me. I was broke and slept in a car a year ago. I never went to university and I suffered from anxiety so bad that I would sometimes break down. We are all flawed. But flaws can be fixed. Not just painted over.
By adopting these principles I now speak a second language, I live in a beautiful place in a beautiful country and I am earning double what I was earning in my previous career, before the sleepy tears in the car
Principles
Enjoy - How many of you have stopped enjoying yourselves at some point? How many times have you been on a night out and not felt it? Why did you get into gaming? To sleep with hot chicks? To find love? All of these things come from our wish of enjoyment. Don't forget the reason we are here. We want to take maximum enjoyment from life. Enjoy every moment you can. When it stops being fun, consider, switch your paradigm.
Love yourself - If you aren't happy with who you are then how can you expect others to love you? If you are too busy thinking about what others are thinking of you or how you look then whatever you do will lose impact as it won't be natural. Humans can sense discomfort. Love yourself and it will give others a reason to love you. Love what you do and what you do becomes fun, not a chore. Once this is grasped the sky is the limit.
Understand and be Understood - Be honest. How many times have you been hearing someone talk and then been planning what your response is during their monologue? We have all done it. It used to be my worst trait. I was too smart for my own good but as they say a little knowledge is a dangerous thing. So my misplaced confidence in my wit really slowed my learning and gaming experience. When someone talks to you, listen to their every word. Digest it. Look at things through their frame work. The once its been considered, then respond. This creates trust and understanding and rapport. How many people do you know that are really good listeners? I bet you can name them. I bet you like them. That is the impact ears can have over mouth.
The Terminal Scenario - This one is simple. From this moment forth, treat everyone in your life with the kindness and understanding as if they were going to die tomorrow.
Never be content - Always want to learn more, always feel you can be better. When this attitude is combined with the others, you are unstoppable.
If you want to understand more then please feel free to contact me on my personal email
gypsysmith86@gmail.com.
Cheers guys, make it a great day.
Gypsy
CHAT