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No one learns how to do this, the way you're attempting to do this.
Randomly chatting up strangers is much more difficult than having a reason for them to hang out with you.
You've been at this for how long? 6 months at a minimum. How many girls have you dated from this? How many lays?
If the answer is "zero"(and I'm pretty sure it is), that's exactly why you need to shift things in a new direction. 6 months was more than enough time for you to have gotten into groups, made friends, and dated at least a girl or two. And the best part is, it would all be building momentum to even further expansion. I don't see a lot of improvement in your delivery from when you first started. You're still creeping people out. This seems to be a dead end.
I'm telling you right now, if you keep doing this for the next six months, your results are going to be what they've been for the previous six months. I notice only mild improvement. At this rate, a year from now, it's still not going to be going well.
Wandering up with "opinion openers" is not how any normal person makes friends or gets dates. It's socially bizarre. Yes, someone who is socially well adjusted can do it. You can't, right now.
Normal conversations come up, from you already knowing the person and saying something like "how was your weekend".
Again, if you need to learn from PUAs, then check into Sinn. He has an "opener" he uses that's roughly "Hi! You look cool! So I thought I'd come say hi! I'm Jon!" and then he "stacks" into some observation about them or the environment.
At least focus on your vocal energy projection and body language. Every video I've seen, you're dead in set within 5 seconds, because you never hook them. You're so focused on saying words, and that is literally the least important part of communication. The most important part is your vibe, tonality and body language.
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Ok, looking at the video Neo mentioned, the teacher you approached. Yeah, that actually was a major improvement. You're doing better when you move away from these odd routine and opinion openers. Granted, that girl was not into you from the start and is just nice, but the conversation was vastly less awkward than the restaurant(on your end).
Your buddy is going to end up getting his ass kicked if he keeps doing that type of "kiss close", though.
Perfectly stated.
This is where the "assume attraction" and plowing stuff are taken the wrong way. You should be looking at feedback from your conversations, and adjusting accordingly next time. Many of the girls showed no interest off that bat, this should be feedback to improve your style and body first. Most of the conversations the people look creeped out, stop using those topics. Even if you're plowing (and I don't really even like plowing), the next approach should be adjusted. You shouldnt be having to plow every girl. In one approach, I saw you compliment a girl and tell her she had yellow teeth, then you spoke to her in a made up Asian language which would surely offend her. This is just simple social skill stuff which should be handled before gaming. As V said, join a social club or make friends first. I suggested a coach. What I think the underlying point is, find a reference point for being a socially normal guy. Even if you ignore this advice, take the feedback you receive (girls wanting to leave, blow outs, nervous stares) and adjust what you're doing until girls and people seem comfortable having conversations with you.
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