so i know from the reading that if a girl does something you dont like, for example is flaky, or gives her attention to someone else while you are talking to her you should punish this behavior with a freeze out and act like you lost interest. is this always the best way? heres a tricky example that i was wondering about:

i asked a girl to get dinner with me. she said maybe, but she might be hanging out with her friend instead. i dropped it right there and changed the subject. at the end of the conversation she told me to give her a call about dinner if i still wanted to go. she has been kind of hard to get a hold of in general and its been annoying me.

i was thinking about just not calling...hence the freeze out. is this a good idea?

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In my opinion, I would call her for dinner. But if you don't get a hold of her, don't chase after her. Don't call her multiple times to see if she will pick up later. Just call once, and if she doesn't answer then its a no and leave it at that.

After that, don't contact her for a while. Try and get her to come seek you out. Don't jump at any chance she gives you to hang out though. I would think that her bringing up the dinner plans is a good sign. Best of luck!

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yeah, just call her once and if she pickes up arrange the dinner, or if it goes to voice mail say, "Its XXXX, lets have some good food and conversation. call me."

or just, "Its XXXX, lets get dinner. call me."

if she doesnt call you back leave it at that. She's not interested and there are far more fish in the sea

i think trying to call her once is the good option.
Although i must say you shouldnt have left the convosation with her sayin
if YOU want to go to dinner YOU have to call HER you should have replied then and said something like
'well i gave you the offer so i'll leave the decision down to you.'
or even
'unfortunately my offer to take you out for dinner has pasted, wouldn't want to get in the way of you and your friends'
This last one is tricky and it depends on how your convosation went and the circumstances, but as she was the one who brought the date back up it does show some interest.
Using one of these lines will get you a straight answer then and there, or at worst she will have to be the one that rings you and all this fuss about having to ring her wouldn't be a problem.

dreamer

i wouldnt use any of those dreamer's wave they sound bitter.

Sorry, but you should never put the decision in her hands. Girls by nature are submissive and need to be led. If you put the responsibility in her hands then she has a choice in the matter and even though she may want to spend time with you she will decide against it because you gave her the option to. Don't do it.
How about, hell no. That just makes it look like you're pissed off at her. I'd say, "I don't do maybes, so I'll meet you about 8. I'll call you and let you know what's happening, k?" or whatever time you want. Her friends are more flexible than you are, remember that. She'll say yes, if not then she isn't worth your time. From my experience, maybe means yes. Actualy it's more like "yes, but you have to tell me again so I know you're not a pansy and get scared off easily", but yeah.

Call her once, if she picks up then arrrange it. Make the decisions, tell her the plan and she will be there. Don't ask her what she wants to do or where she wants to go... she can pick something she thinks you'll like the next time you go out together. If she doesn't answer then leave it. She'll see the missed call and get back to you. If not, she isn't worth your time.

Eh... I don't like her "maybe." Go get dinner with a different girl that night. If she asks why you didn't call, just say, "Eh... I didn't like your 'maybe.' I went to dinner with Emily instead."

Her: Who's Emily??
You: Someone who seemed a lot more appreciative and respectful of my time and interest.

if this happens to me i'll usually respond very casually with:

"nah just forget it, i don't think it's gonna work out" and move on.
if shes interested she'll stop you and often times commit to the original plan. alot of times, the reason the girl responds with "maybe, i'll let you know" is because YOU HAVEN'T GENERATED ENOUGH ATTRACTION. knowing when you have takes a little practice. i think this is really what makes someone successful with women, knowing when she'll say yes THEN putting yourself out there. that way, your track record is always positive and you continue to increase your confidence and momentum.

is this for a first date? i allways thought never take a girl to dinner on a first date. its too formal for a first date

Let's never say never, shall we? The idea is to make the date feel natural and comfortable; it doesn't necessarily imply you can't do dinner. People gotta eat ya know! Respectfully disagree. Too much disqualification.
This is the credited response.

+1 for calling just once and leaving it at that. if no response then freeze her for sure.

Yeah if you call and she doesnt answer.
She will know you called then the ball is in her field, so let her make her play.

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