| I'd like to share my insights with you guys. This is mostly for those who wants LTRs, and I believe many girls do. It is also a list of things not commoly discussed in this community.
From my experience, and other people's experience too when I hear their stories, it seems as if a majority of girls want to meet the "prince of their dreams" (a romantic fantasy), have 2-3 babies and live happily ever after. In order to be that prince you need to meet a checklist of requirements. And the better you score on each point in this list, the better match you will be for her, and the more she will hold on to you and not let you go.
Here is a list of such points that I think applies to everyone, something that is part of our being and not something the girl chooses to put on the list:
1. You have to be "handsome". This does not only involve your looks and clothing, but also all those alpha male traits that we learn about as PUAs. A confident posture can make wonders to your looks for instance. But what makes nice clothes? What should you wear? It's all in the viewer's eye - her taste.
2. You need to have chemistry. This is mostly out of your control. Well, as a PUA you can always play games and pretend to be someone you are not, if you can get away with being incongruent. But for those of you who want to sleep with girls you actually like, and want to keep her for a long time, this is completely out of your control.
3. You should be equal to each other in some areas (some personality traits), but different in others to keep things interesting. Many are looking for someone who complements them. For instance, if she is very energetic and out of control she might be looking for a guy who is very calm and in control.
4. Your social status, career and salary plays an important role. The rule of thumb seems to be that you should "be better" than the girl at least. There are always exceptions of course, if you score high enough on other points. But remember, this is only for LTRs!
5. Your values and political opinions can't differ too much.
6. Cooperation in stressful situtations... Can you handle it? Who takes the role as the leader? One has to be dominant, and there is no problem if the girl is (you don't have to be dominant all the time).
7. Be good with kids. This is such a cliche.
On top of this the girl adds her own conscious requirements, and this is where things get interesting. A girl may have the weirdest and most stupid requirements ever, and can dump you for things you find completely irrelevant. For instance, a girl may dump you just because you have been married once (I took this from a TV show). Why? Because she hasn't, and she wants it to be the first time for both her and her husband, which is just a romantic dream of hers, nothing that would affect the relationship in any other way.
I hope this was helpful to some of you.
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