I think I'm broken, I'm not all that bad with girls it's just my mind keeps preventing me from doing anything.

It's like low self confidence, or a wrong way of looking at intimacy or something.

Somehow, and I'm not sure if this is a common problem on these forums, but I somehow end up rejecting women. I just lose enthusiasm easily and end up thinking fuck it, I'll pull another at some pint in the future.

A HB6 I had just met insisted on buying me drink at one point, after saying no 5 times I said okay a beer bottle (cause they were the cheapest) and she came back with a vodka and coke. Gets worse, we sat on the couch talked for 5 mins and as soon as mine and hers friends showed up we went for a smoke.

Another girl gave me cig one time, showed me a tattoo on her ass and when the group we with went to get drinks I went as well.

Worst one, (and this was before PUA so I'd handle this situation better now) I once had a girl sat in my bed. And you that scene in wolf of wallstreet when he's sat in the car thinking; " c'mon Jordan think of a way to get up to her apt, c'mon think of something". My mind was like that, eventually after drawing a blank on anything to do. I gave up and we went to the club.


I understand what limiting beliefs are, fixing it seems to be a different issue.
And no I'm not gay.

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You're lacking basic escalation, obviously.

Are you saying you do not have the energy or ambition to escalate or you don't know how to do it properly? In at least one of your examples, some very simple kino would have kept things moving.

Even some engaging, witty banter would work (mixed with some kino) - start small... you'll improve.

Now, if your problem is that you just don't have the energy to bother with escalation, then that's another issue - I don't even know what to tell you, there. You don't usually get the prize if you don't do the work.

It's called "the inner saboteur" You think you don't deserve the girl or you have low self esteem so you sabotage the interaction unconsciously so you don't risk any potential negative emotions if it doesn't work out.

Your mental game is fucked. Do you want to get your dick sucked or not bro? Stop thinking so much and just try to get your cock in her mouth as quick as possible even if you look like a fool. Practice your game, read seduction guides, this will make the process more fun. It doesn't sound like you are enjoying the process and that is a serious flaw. As far as asking girls up to your place, this works almost every time "hey I want to show you this youtube video"

That's it, nailed. Gotta research that one.

To expand I guess i presume that only smooth confident guys can get girls and then think, hang on I can't do this. I don't deserve this, I havn't worked up to the top guy status yet.

Unconsciously sabotage the interaction that is also it, because after every single time I think, "now why the fuck did I do that? Coulda had her."

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